(Closed) I feel like I'm being petty- how do I get over this?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Meh, she had a lot on her plate, that doesn’t excuse it, but it does explain it.  I wouldn’t be upset because I’m sure she would just die if she knew how badly that made you feel.  Let the dust settle, set up a lunch and ask her how she thought her wedding went, odds are good her complaints outnumber yours four to one!

Post # 4
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with you she should have been a lot more gracious to all of her out of town guest given the fact that you made an extra effort to attend. I think she owe you and the other guest an apology for her poor behavior. Hopefully, when all the dust settles I would hope that she does think about it and sends a letter or card saying how sorry she was for her actions.

Post # 5
4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I guess if she’s still treating you differently vs her wedding, I would bring it up.  If not, sounds like just plain ole wedding drama & she was trying to keep the peace.

Post # 6
23 posts

I wonder if she avoided talking to you and other friends because she was embarrassed at the way she was being treated by family.  If you guys were left out might be because her family drama was more than she could handle and she may have been thinking about how nice her friends weddings were compared to hers. 


Post # 7
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Have you talked to her about the wedding?

Post # 8
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow what a nightmare for her.  People talking crap about the bride at her wedding?? Seems like maybe the weekend wasn’t what she was planning on either.  I say to let it go, call her up and ask her how she thought the wedding was.  Like the other posters, it doesn’t excuse her bahaivor, but it sure does explain it.

Post # 9
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sounds to me like she had plenty to deal with. You’ve been there, I’m sure you can understand how stressful it can be. I think by being offended that you didn’t get to see her before the wedding is a huge over reaction. Chill, this bride had her wedding to worry about, and it sounds like everyone was giving her a ton of grief. You don’t know what all had to be done by the couple the day and night before or even the morning of. Sounds like this girl needed only her sisters around her that morning to get ready, or even just got ready herself to escape the drama.

Sounds like this bride didn’t end up getting the wedding of her dreams, but instead got a soap opera weekend.

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