Post # 1
Bees, I have struggled with anxiety for a long time and I’ve been at a point for at least two months where I feel like I’m about to crack. I mess up at work, I forget things constantly, and my self-esteem about my ability to just life in general is at an all-time low.
I’m doing counseling and take melatonin to help me sleep but here I am again wide awake in the middle of the night stressing over whether or not I turned off the lights at my office.
Can anyone else relate? What do you do when you feel like everything you do is wrong? My SO is extremely supportive, but there are times when I feel like he doesn’t completely know how anxious I am.
Post # 2
Coming from someone who’s FI struggles with anxiety, I am deeply sorry. I see what he goes through first hand and my heart aches for him and those just like him who are suffering.
This sounds very extreme. I am glad you are on medication and seeking help. Have you thought of finding a online support group more aimed towards mental illnesses?
Post # 3
I learned “tactical breathing”. It was invented by the Navy Seals. A friend taught me after his training
1-Take in a breath for four seconds
2-Hold in a breath for four seconds
3-Release breath for four seconds
4-Hold breath for four seconds
Repeat as many times as you need. Hope this helps.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
I was in this exact same place 2 years ago. I was in a super stressful job and that was slowly spilling over into other areas of my life until I was in tear nearly every day feeling like I couldn’t cope with even simple things. I think only my partner and close friend really knew how bad it was, to everyone else I just seemed like I was having a bad day sometimes by forgetting things etc but thought there was nothing wrong. I honestly dont know what it was that got me out of it, but I spent a lot of time alone just trying to re-charge and tell myself it was going to work out ok in the end. Eventually I got a new job which helped me to focus my energy on training in a new field which seemed to help with the anxiety as I was focusing less of my energy on fretting about everything and more time learning a new skill. Just talking it over with someone to get it all out of your system really helps.I found the worst part was knowing that my anxiety was literally all in my head, yet I couldnt stop it. Eventually if I told myself long enough every day that I can’t change anything and nothing is as bad as it seems I managed to drag myself out of all those negative feelings.
I know my post probably doesnt really help much in terms of coping machanisms, but maybe just hearing about someone else who went through it will at least be relatable.