(Closed) I feel like its not even my wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry you feel this way.  *Hugs*  BM drama can be bad.  At least your mom and FMIL are willing to help!  I’m still far out from my date, but it can be difficult to stick with what you want.  Have you been going for what other have liked, besides your bridesmaids, on other decisions?

Post # 5
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ugh, I’m sorry you’re bridesmaids aren’t being more supportive.  What things do you have to wait later to do?  Can you still change them to make them more your taste?  Also, if you’re doing first dances, are you doing songs you like?  That’s something you could still talk with your DJ about or change on your playlist.

Post # 6
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4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You should try putting your foot down on things that you can change now and after this work on the pushover thing. It will help you alot later in life.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@MrsN23:  It’s your wedding–don’t let yourself forget that and your vision of what you want it to be like.  Don’t let anyone take that away from you.  Those will be your pictures and your memories.

Even though my wedding is a few years away my MOH will be my younger sister and I thought it would be nice to have FI’s younger sister to be my BM.  However, all the dresses I like now are short and I wanted them to wear little heels and she threw a big fit.  (Even though all of it was in theory!)  Needless to say I will not be having her as my BM after that.  Maybe she can be an usher.

Have a long talk with the bridemaid about how you want everyone to be uniform.  Or maybe there is a shawl that you like that all the BMs can wear.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsN23:  Please try to get control over as much as possible. My dear friend let her mother railroad her wedding and 8 years later she is still sad about it. DON’T BE HER!!

BM shoes-no one will notice unless everyone is wearing silver and she is wearing like disco purple. BUT she needs to ditch the shall now. Tell her you do not want her to wear it and that’s final. If she throws a fit, let her.

This wedding is yours and your FI’s. You two have the most emotional investment. Have someone who is stronger and who agress with you to handle your bridal party the day of the wedding. The day is about you and your FI.

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