Post # 1
So the wedding was a month ago and all I have recieved from my photographer was one photo, it was only of me and you cant really see much detail. (this ISNT the issue, she has a three month waiting period before photos are ready and I knew this and am happy to wait.)
However, my best friend has befriended my photographer on facebook, (They dont know each other from a bar of soap, only met briefly at my wedding), and all of a sudden my photographer has posted a pic of me and my hubby, that i hadnt even seen, on my bestfriends page, saying “a deals a deal”.
I am so hurt by this. I feel like i should be the one who has the photos, not my best friend.
I splurged on the photography and it was something i was sooo looking forward to. It was my something to share. It was my biggest cost. I had a tiny wedding and even cut out the number of ppl coming because i had spent so much on photography.
I feel so betrayed by both my bestfriend and by my photographer.
Im not sure if im being over emotional. But I cant help but feel let down.
What would you do?
ETA: im not quite sure what i should say to either of them. I feel a bit too OTT emotional to talk to either of them, so some suggestions of what to sya would be nice?
Post # 3
Im really confused why he would post your wedding pics on HER page? i would confront both friend and photog about it tho!
Post # 4
I’m confused, what did you best friend do? The picture was posted on her page so it’s not like she did anything wrong.
From what I can gather, it sounds like your photographer is unprofessional but puting your picture on someone else’s facebook page. I would say something to them but I’m not sure if that’s something they can do since they have rights to the picture. It just sounds innapropriate.
Post # 5
I can understand feeling let down, that is so bizarre that she would do that! Call your friend up and ask her what the deal was… Maybe she’s trying to get your pics faster for you?
Post # 6
I would ask your BF about it. What did the photod mean by “a deal’s a deal”? Maybe she was trying to get the photo for you?
Post # 7
I don’t understand why she said “a deals a deal”???
Your contract probably states that you’ve given consent for her to use your photos, but I would call your photographer and let her know that you’re upset about it! Let her know that in the future you’d like to be the first one to see photos before she posts them elsewhere – I think thats a reasonable request.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I wouldn’t go so far that you were “betrayed,” but that’s really unprofessional that your photographer is sharing pictures with other people when you don’t have them yet. What part of “the couple gets them first” doesn’t he/she understand?
E-mail or call the photographer- “Hey, I was really surprised to see that you posted pictures on Jody’s FB page when I haven’t gotten them yet- does this mean they’re ready?” You had a “deal” with the photographer, too- one he or she was PAID for.
Post # 9
I am also confused. It seems weird, but I’d try not to get too pissed about it. I don’t think any harm was meant. And maybe this means you can get more pictures now – YEAH!
Post # 10
I would love to know what type of deal your best friend made with your photographer, and why. As a prior poster suggested, the photographer owns the rights to the images and is able to post them wherever he or she sees fit. However, that’s just odd. Your BF obviously did something to make this deal, but what, and why?
Post # 11
Ask you best friend about it, that is SO weird O_o
Post # 12
At the moment im too angry to talk with my friend. i fell if i talk to her i will blow up and lose our friendship. Seriously i have no idea what ‘deal’ they made. I just thought considering i had made the ‘deal’ to contract her for the photos that they would be mine to share.. i paid a bit over $5000 for her to take my photos. I just feel let down by my friend. If i did that to her she would be angry beyond belief.
Post # 13
I don’t get this story at all?
Post # 14
Is it possible the photographer gave the friend the photo as a gift to you?
Post # 15
I would stop assuming the worst and ask your friend (non confrontationally) what deal she made with the photog. Is this odd? Yes. Is this worth ruining a friendship? No.
Post # 16
I don’t understand the a deal is a deal thing.. wtf?