I bottle fed a kitten from about 4 weeks old and have had her since. Luna is three and is well cared for. All her shots, good food, daily cuddle time and playtime, lots of toys for her own entertainment. I am a college student so I am typically gone about 5-ish hours a day.
I never have met a cat before who was, forgive my language, such a little shit. She likes to scratch up a particular material and has ruined my office chair, which is whatever, but more importantly has an obsession with destroying an expensive guitar case of mine. I put it away from her, but every time that door gets opened she darts in and attacks it. She has pretty much ruined it. I trim her nails every week or two and I tried for months to gently pull her off the office chair and put her on a scratching post when she scratches. It just never stuck. She pulls at the carpet and there are a few places she has really worn down. She meows and walks on me all night long, and if I just shut my door (even for just short durations) she sticks her paw under it and shakes the door violently so sometimes I have to lock her in a bathroom, where she cries and cries but at least I can sleep. She cries and shakes the door when I lock her out to have sexytime with FI. She jumps on the counter to eat things if I turn my back step away from it for a SECOND (the water squirt bottle does NOTHING to deter on her), and takes everything out of even slightly ajar drawers and hoards them (especially my socks/underwear). I live on a busy road so I don’t let her out (she has always been indoor only because I live on this busy road) but she darts out every time I open the door and scratches me when I catch her.
I have always believed in forever pets, and my previous pets were with me and my family until they passed away. I love Luna, I do, but she is so destructive and obnoxious that I don’t know what to do. I don’t blame FI for not liking her, but he does do a good job of tolerating her. FI and I are moving in together in December in a new city and I am stressed that we will have to narrow our search to cat-friendly apartments and make compromises for a cat that is so destructive and obnoxious. We will both be working and I’m afraid her bad behavior will triple if she is alone all day.
It seems to me I have three options:
1. Get her declawed, even though I don’t believe in it and it might even make her act out more (as it does with 40% of cats), but at least she would be less destructive. The other behavior problems are at least somewhat tolerable.
2. Give her to my dad, where she would be an indoor/outdoor cat. I am nervous about doing this since she’s never spent very much time outside, but at least I would be able to see her occasionally. But if something happened to her outside I would feel so awful 🙁
3. Give her away 🙁 I’d be picky of course but I think I would be very sad about this. I mean, I bottle fed this cat, you know?
Do I have any other options that you guys can think of? What do I do? 🙁