I feel like the worst cat mom. Advice please

posted 3 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I am prejudiced, because I am from a country where vet advice encourages indoor/outdoor cats, but I would suggest that you make her an indoor/outdoor cat. With some cats then this can make an amazing difference.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Is your dad willing to take her?  That might be for the best.  Otherwise, you’re just going to continue to harbor negative feelings toward her, and you’ll end up just giving her away.  =(

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My cat went from an indoor cat for 6 years to an indoor/outdoor cat. your cat will make the adjustment just fine if your dad is willing to take her.

Post # 6
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Wannabee

I have had both of my cats declawed as they were very destructive as well, it has not had any negative effects on them other then they might bite (more like nibble) a bit more but other then that they are just the same and no ruined furniture, walls or anything else…

 

Good Luck!

Post # 7
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Honey bee

GIven those options, I’d probably get her declawed. I know of too many cats who have lost their lives as an indoor/outdoor cat.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Just wondering where you heard about the 40% statistic?  Our two cats never changed a smidge when we had them declawed, and I grew up around declawed cats.  Our cats are strictly indoors, and we allow them outside to our screened-in porch to watch the birds/bugs…I’ve never seen happier & healthier cats.

 

I would consider the claw removal, but I know many folks have strong views on this.  Just do your best research before you jump to any conclusions on what is, really, a rountine and much-improved procedure.  Good luck!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would DEFINITELY give her to your dad. She’s gonna learn to be outside. Most cats like being outside.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m vehemently against declawing. It’s like cutting off your fingers at the knuckle. It also makes cats more likely to bite and display aggressive behavior.

But it sounds like you have a normal pain-in-the-ass cat to me.

 

Have you thought about Claw caps?

They’re silicone caps that goes over the cat’s claws. You trim off the sharp tip, put some glue in the cap, and then put it on their nails. Might be worth a shot.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

Ok. Cats don’t like citrus so can you spray something on the areas she scratches?. Are there enough scratching posts? I have recently bought something called pet correct. Its a aerosol can that makes a hissingnoise. Only been using it for a few weeks but its is amazing. When the cats are being naughty i use it. They hate the noise so stop what they are doing staight away and are realising that naughty behaviour means the bad sound happen. Their behaviour has 100% improved. My cats used to scratch. Hiss. Terrorize each other. Keep us awake all night. It was recommeded by our vet. Have you spoken to yours? They may be able to help. Don’t give up yet. She is still a baby and in human years a stroppy teenager. Xxxx btw i don’t vote for declawing. We don’t do it in my country so just my oppinion. Xx

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Weird, two brand-new posters promoting declawing.

Post # 14
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Honey bee

And by they way you arent a bad cat mum..you are seeking advice and trying your best. Don’t beat yourself up. I love my cats but they can be a total pain in the arse!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@peachacid:  i thought that was odd too. o_O

 

OP- does your dad live in a quiet area? it sounds like a good option to have her live with him if he’s ok with that. at least you’d get to visit her. also, to counter what a PP said about declawing being a routine procedure- most vets won’t even do it anymore because it’s so inhumane. it’s not a routine procedure.

 

 

 

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