I feel like we have way too many guests,what should I do?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Ashleigh24:  Wow 500 people????  I would go out of my mind.  And that is a LOT of thank you cards to send out after, lol.  Is that a cultural norm where she is?  Anyway if the invitations have already gone out then there is not a whole lot you can do at this point.  But if not, then you need to talk to your mom about how you are feeling.  Let her know that you appreciate all she is doing, and you absolutely want her to have some people there that she is friends with, but that its past the point of excessive and its making you uncomfortable. 

Post # 4
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

As long as she’s paying and they fit in the venue who cares? I’m having 350 and don’t know many but would be fine with 500 if the venue fit them. My motto is the more the merrier! But if you really dint want them there just talk to your mom.

Post # 6
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Ashleigh24:  I know how you feel, I had to send out a bunch of invitations to relatives who I barely know and probably wouldnt even recognize if I ran into them on the street.  But they all RSVP’d NO.  Part of it has to do with the fact they would have to travel though.  So although she is inviting 500 people, you may not get nearly that many to actually show up.  I would still talk to your mom though, bring it up gently and hint that you wish your wedding was a little more initmate. 

Post # 7
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4640 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yikes. I can imagine you feel overwhelmed.. but as you mentioned she’s paying so technically she can invite whoever she wants. Although, one would assume this didn’t mean everyone she’s ever met!

On the upside, perhaps a lot of people may decline? If not, deep breathing may help?

Post # 8
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

unfortuately that is what happens when parents help pay. they have more say and you don’t always get what you wanted.

just try to remember the real reason for the day and just focus on marrying your SO

Post # 10
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Maybe you can have an intimate shower/jack and jill party/rehearsal dinner/or day-after brunch? Something affordable and intimate, with just the people you care about most? 

Post # 12
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Ashleigh24:  I don’t know how big your mother’s home is…but pizza/chinese takeout and wine for your bridal party/parents shouldn’t be too expensive, no? Some people might say that’s not “classy” enough for a wedding-related event, but it’s about spending some quality time with your loved ones, not spending cash you can’t aford…

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