Post # 1
Recently I feel really ugly. I look at my high school and it makes me cry. I am about to be done with college and I feel like just in the last year my looks have completely changed. My jaw looks bigger on one side, my lips don’t look straight…. Everything I do to try to make myself look better only makes me look even uglier. I got my hair done recently and the stylist messed it up completely. I got my eyebrows done, and again they messed it up. We’re getting together with our family members this week to celebrate our engagement and discuss wedding plan and I am a complete wreck. I really don’t feel like getting together with out families. I just feel so ugly and want to burry my head my pillow and never leave the bed.
My ex made me feel even worse. I saw him few days ago on my break. Accidentally bumped into him and he said I completely changed and not in a good way. That just made me feel so much worse.
I really don’t know what else to do to make myself look nice. I am really skinny and everything I wear never fits right.
I am so sorry for venting, but I have noone else to turn to. I could really use some girl advice.
Post # 3
@babylo0n: Oh forgot to mention. I have a bridge on my tooth that just broke… so my teeth are falling apart now and I have no insurance to fix it. I was told to get an implant. I used to love my smile, but now that’s ugly too.
Post # 4
You show me your picture, and I will show you a beautiful woman..there’s nothing wrong with you or your jaw or your eyebrows….your just in a funk…it happens to us all! Stop doing things TO yourself and start doing things FOR yourself…watch a good movie, read a good book, take a walk, write a poem, eat some ice cream and dance in your kitchen. An enriched and nourished soul has it’s own beauty, yours could use some love!
Post # 5
My advice? Go find your ex and kick him in the shin. And then after that go get some ice cream or a coffee from starbucks. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are an incredible woman. Don’t let your outward appearance effect how you feel about yourself. I know how hard it can be but you are the ONLY you that there is and you have found a man that wants to spend the rest of his life with you. He thinks you are beautiful so you should too. Ignore the demons in your head telling you that you aren’t the amazing woman that you are.
Post # 6
The only advice I could give you is to get some confidence,
and a Laura Mercier eyebrow pencil
Post # 7
We’re always our own harshest critic! I guarantee it’s not as bad as you think. Most of the time when I hear this from women it is completely unfounded. Your guy shouldn’t have said that and I agree with the previous proposal of a good shin kicking, but he likely didn’t really mean anything by it. So take all that energy that you’ve been spending feeling bad for yourself and try to focus on the good things in your life. Let yourself do things that you enjoy. Work on gaining some confidence. Because a healthy, happy, confident woman is always the most attractive.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone. It’s just so much easier said than done.
Post # 9
@babylo0n: Im going through an ugly bug stage at the moment so we can be ugly bugs together
My roots need done,I’ve got pasty winter skin and a zit on my cheek thats looks like a third nipple! I am soooo attractive. My SO came in last night to me plastered in zit cream- sexy!
To get back to you,I think you are being harsh on yourself. You’ve had a bad haircut and eyebrow wax,both will grow back,I bet its that thats making you uber critical of your appearance in general. You have a FI whom Im sure thinks you look beautiful. If I were you I would treat myself to a day at the beauty salon and buy a new outfit to give yourself a boost before your get together.
Post # 10
I agree with all the PPs! Oh, and go do something that makes you feel beautiful! For me, it’s pedicures and a hair treatment in the shower. What is it for you?
Post # 11
@babylo0n: *HUGS* Don’t feel bad about what your ex said, he’s an ex for a reason. Congrats on the engagement, enjoy this time in your life.
Post # 12
@Lindarella: Oh Linda you made me laugh! Yes lets be ugly together. At least you don’t have an engagement gathering to go to. -_- I REALLLYYYYYY don’t want to go. FIs family is coming into town and I just want to run!
Post # 13
@babylo0n: *Hugs* I am sure it’s not as bad as you think.
One thing I do for myself is to figure out what I can do myself, and then not let anyone touch me lol. For example, I do my own eyebrows. It took a bit of trial and error, but I know I can rely on myself to do them well. I don’t get facials.. I buy face masks and do it myself (it’s a nice little pampering gesture, perhaps not as effective as a spa, but it’s a quick and cheap pick me up). I do my own nails.
I think you need to do some girly things to make you feel pretty and feminine again. And save up some money for that tooth – I can understand how that would affect confidence.
Buy a new perfume. Perfume always makes me feel pretty.
Try a new hair color or go to a different hairdresser and get them to do something with the haircut you hate.
Join a gym or find some exercise that boosts your endorphins and makes you feel overall better as a person. It’s hard to get into a routine, but I know I feel more confident in general when I put myself through a tough workout and survive.
Post # 15
@babylo0n: Hehe,glad I could make you smile. I’ve got the ugly bug ball song stuck in my head now 🙂
Post # 16
@babylo0n: first of all–ignore your ex. He’s obviously an ass. He definitely saw how beautiful you are, felt stupid for not being with you anymore and needed to make you feel bad about yourself to make himself feel better. Classic asshole move
Although I have never met you, I’m sure you are beautiful! I can relate to how you’re feeling. I have horrible eczema on my arms, legs, and face that just appeared 2 years ago. My boyfriend at the time (now fiancé) use to tell me how soft my skin was, and although he still says it now, I know it’s not the case and I feel like I’m a red, patchy, itchy monster. Please keep in mind that you are your own worst enemy and no one is judging you as harshly as you’re judging yourself so go easy on yourself!!!!!
try to write down one compliment about yourself, or a positive point about yourself (whether it’s physical, mental, a skill you can do, etc.), and keep them in a box. Whenever you’re feeling down, go to that box and re-read what you wrote for a pick me up!!