i feel relieved… guilty.. sad :(

posted 3 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I think you did the right thing. They’re still close to you! This is better for them and for you in my opinion. I’ve known others who have had to make similar decisions. It is not always easy but it is usually for the best. I think any guilt you’re feeling just shows how much you love and care about them. Don’t beat yourself up over this though – just keep visiting them and loving them!! You’ll hopefully be together again soon under one roof.

Post # 4
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604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You absolustely did the right thing. You will still see them and want them to have a good life right now.  Nothing to be guilty over.

Post # 5
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Kandiss16:  I think you did what you felt was best for the dogs. They are staying with family, so it’s not like you gave them up to the pound. You made a selfless choice instead of a selfish one. It’s not like it’s forever either. I know you feel bad (I would too), but your furbabies are probably much happier getting the space and attention they deserve.

Post # 6
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939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

I thought this was going to end with you giving them to the pound. Oh thank god!

I think having them stay with your in-laws is a great choice!

Did you consider hiring a dog walker to take them out mid-day? In the future, if this situation ever comes up again, that might be a good option for them. 

 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Kandiss16:  I think you did the right thing.  I don’t really consider this “abandoning” your pets because you will be able to go see them whenever you like and you’re planning on getting them back.  Right now this is probably the best temporary solution for everyone, including your furbabies.  So sorry you’re in this position though.  Hopefully you and your husband can find a nice house of your own soon.  Best of luck!

Post # 10
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Kandiss16:  You placed them in a safe home while you look for something more appropriate so they can come back and live with you.  It’s unfortunately you had to find out the hard way that they require a yard and doggie door but it had to happen.  You are doing the right thing.  You didn’t abandon them or kick them out.  Go easy on yourself and find a new palce where your furbabies can return to living with you.

FWIW, my furbaby had to go live with my mom for a year following my divorce because he couldn’t live where I was because I was stuck renting a room from a family friend as I didn’t have any money to rent my own place.  As soon as I could have him back with me he moved back in but it was a rough year and I’m sad I missed that year of his life since dogs don’t live forever.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Kandiss16:  I also thought this was going to end with them being surrendered and i was like “oh noooooooo!”.  But this setup doesn’t seem so bad.  It does sound, however, like they aren’t actually housetrained, which is something you need to get on ASAP!  If they’ll tolerate a crate, I recommend crate training, but really, you just need to start with frequent breaks (every 3-4 hours) where they go out on a leash or in a designated area and get praised for ‘doing their business’, so they get used to a schedule rather than just going where/whenever.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Kandiss16:  I hear you!  It’s tough when you’re working full-time.  Are your in-laws on-board with helping establish a routine? 

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