Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids is 4 months pregnant. The wedding is 25 days away. I just picked up her $250 dress. everything is ordered, planned, etc. She told me that she’s afraid of radiation and doesn’t want to fly and won’t be there. She’s one of my 3 best friends (I only have 5 bridesmaids). I feel sick. I don’t want to be selfish/Bridezilla, but everything I’ve read online says that flying is not harmful to a fetus (she’s coming to California from Virginia). Her parents also have crazy ideas and have been telling her that planes are hotbeds of radiation. What should I do? Think? I already emailed her back and said I would be devastated, and copied some of the info I found from Mayo Clinic, etc. Help!
Post # 3
whaaaaaaaatttttttttt tttttt Um, I’ve never heard of radiation on planes. I’d send her a bunch of stuff from the Mayo Clinic, tell her you’ll be really bummed if she can’t make it, but then also leave her a graceful exit if necessary. If you value the friendship (which clearly you do since she’s in your wedding), best to not back her into a corner about it. Give her the information and then say something like “I really hope you can make it, but if you’re not comfortable with it, I understand…”
Sticky (and kinda kooky) situation, best of luck to you!
Post # 4
I second what CHK suggested. Definitely say something like “Here’s the info I’ve read, I really hope you can make it” and leave it at that. Good luck!
Post # 5
Hmm… my FI is a pilot and has never said anything about radiation concerns! Only thing he says that up in the cockpit you can get a good sunburn because the windows aren’t tented. But that doesn’t apply to the passengers since most of them put the window shades down if the sun is blaring in.
I agree try to reassure her that there isn’t a problem. Then just let it go. There maybe something more to her not feeling up to coming and you don’t want to pry.
Post # 6
I’ve never ever heard of such a thing. I’ve always heard that it is safe to fly until your third trimester. Maybe have her call her OB/GYN to quell her concerns?
Post # 7
you guys are awesome. That’s pretty much what I said. I guess we’ll just have to see what she does. I just wish she had told me earlier-she’s usually such a thoughtful person. She actually cancelled a visit in August for the same reason, so she could have let me know it would be the same for the wedding. I’m just blindsided.
Post # 8
ditto about researching and emailing her. i have heard about very light radiation or something like that while flying, can you ask her if it’s maybe financial?
Post # 9
I second asking her to visit her OB/GYN. You’re a great friend for doing research on the subject but I think sometimes it’s best to hear it from a doctor.
Post # 10
If she doesn’t want to come after reading your email, i would let it go. got . Her mother may be puttin ideas into her head and she’s probably very emotional right now. The bigger deal you make, the less she will want to come and she might get resentful.
Post # 11
That is so weird, but there are other means of mass transit, a la bus or train would produce travel results.
Post # 12
I think OB/GYNs only discourage pregnant ladies from flying later in the pregnancy b/c of the pressure changes … I think … But yeah, I’ve never heard anything about radiation.
Can she take a train? Bus? Road trip? Anything?
Post # 13
I’ve never heard of radiation from flying. And also, at that early stage, she shouldn’t have concerns about flying. Tough call. Perhaps there’s more to her story. A lot of outrageous stories are made up to hide the real reasons.
Post # 14
What a bummer. Keep us updated about her choice…the best you can do is provide her with the right info and hope she comes to her senses! (but I’m sure being pregnant makes people more cautious! understandable!!)
Post # 15
The first thing I thought of was the train, but I think Virginia –> California would take a couple of DAYS on Amtrak.
Post # 16
BTW-My friend flew to Philly from St. Louis and she was six months preggers and her baby is fine.