I feel so alone, depressed and numb

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Silly_love:  I’m sorry you are feeling this way. Sometimes we need to be alone to recharge our batteries. There’s nothing wrong with it. You’re not selfish or a bad person. Every situation is different, normally family ties are very important. But if you are feeling that they put you down and don’t let you grow as a person, I’d keep distance from them. Do you have a chance to take a mini vacation? Just all the time for you and do something fun, whatever you like!

 

Post # 5
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Silly_love:  Maybe while your FI is away, you can do something for yourself. I’m sure that it’s just temporary. All the good will come your way:) It’s great that you create something and you can express yourself. Maybe you can join art club or participate in festivals, this way you’ll meet new people:)

Post # 6
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1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Silly_love:  I’m really sorry to hear you’re having such a hard time at the moment – it really does sound like a lot of things are stacking up on you and making life complicated. I wish there was something I could do or say to make you feel better!

I think given everything that is going on for you right now, it would be a good idea to make an appointment to talk with your doctor. They may be able to help you focus on making sure you are taking care of yourself, and maybe set you up to talk to a counsellor or someone else who can better help you put everything in perspective and find the best way forward. A problem shared is a problem halved, and even just talking to someone can make a world of difference. 

When we feel down and overwhelmed, it is so difficult to make decisions and figure out what to do next. I was feeling a very similar way a few months ago (albeit in a very different situation) and it was only with the guidance of objective professionals that I was able to get back on track.

I really hope that your brighter days are just around the corner! In the meantime, be very kind to yourself. You deserve it.

Post # 7
Member
183 posts
Blushing bee

I am so sorry you are going through this.  This March will be one year since I talked to my mother also….same story as you basically ~ she insults and puts down me but then says that’s not what she meant and then she’s the victim.  All my family has forgiven her for what happened last year and since I am the only one still not speaking to her, I”M the one that’s the problem now. 

I’m sorry you don’t have an answer for you.  I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Post # 8
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1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Silly_love:  Has your FI talked to anyone about his PTSD? That really needs to be addressed, he can’t go on letting it affect his life like that. And what’s his excuse for breaking plans with you? That’s not ok.

In terms of the situation with your mom, I’m sure you had your reasons for cutting her off and you shouldn’t feel any guilt or responsibility to do what your brothers want. Stick to your plan of taking your dad out separately and don’t invite your mother back into your life. It’s not worth it.

I hope you’re feeling better today! Please find someone to talk to that can help you through this.

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