Post # 1
…I am actually at the point where I am seriously considering avoiding things because I am so freaking sick of talking about my wedding. I realize that I should be enjoying this since, hello, it’s the one time in my life where people want to talk about me-me-meeeeeee! But I guess I’m not that type of person. And I’m usually pretty open about my personal life with my acquaintances, neighbors and co-workers. Not intimate or anything, but if people ask me questions about my life I have no problem answering them because I consider myself to be a friendly, approachable person.
Yesterday I had to call a colleague I hadn’t talked to in a while about a work issue, and I had the first five minutes of the phone call talking about wedding plans and repeating the same things over and over about my venue, photographer, blah blah blah blah. All I needed was a quick question answered and I had a million things on my to-do list that day!! Blargh!
Same happens in meetings where someone pipes up about “How is wedding planning going?!!!” and then I have to update that person and then update anyone else who may not know that I am getting married with the details so people won’t think I’m being rude. Lol. I work for a very large organization and I transferred to a new division after I got engaged, so it wasn’t like I went into my first meeting flashing my ring and shouting “I’m getting married, y’all!” I talk about it when it comes up in conversation, but honestly it’s starting to detract from my work because it seems like it’s all people want to talk about!! Aaaah!!
I have a neighborhood book club get together tonight and I’m already dreading going and talking about the same things again and again. I don’t let it show ever, so no worries, I know people are excited for me and that is so awesome! I just feel like handing people an “update sheet” when they ask me about the wedding since I am just SO SICK OF TALKING ABOUT IT and I feel bad because this is supposed to be “my time.” But I am just ready to move on with my life and get some freaking work done! Sheesh.
Whoa, sorry for the length, just had to vent there for a second. Feel free to bash me over the head if I’m being a grouch.
Post # 3
@Ilovewine: Aww, hugs hugs hugs! Sounds like you just need a break. Maybe set aside a moment or a day or what have you to pamper yourself a bit? Everyone is allowed a day here and there!
Post # 4
I SO felt like that the month before our wedding! I was just DONE!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Damn, all I wanted to do was talk about my wedding, and no one asked me about it! Thus, my 4829034 posts here on Weddingbee 🙂
Post # 6
Can you just give really perky sparse answers and change the subject? “Yep, it’s going really well thank you!! And how are things with you” “Got everything sorted, thanks so much for asking. And what did you do in the weekend?”
Post # 7
@Ilovewine: Why do you feel the need to exhaustively update them?
Whenever I’m getting inundated with people asking I just say “Good, not bad – things winding down. Same old, same old.” And then they leave me alone.
Are people so interested that they’re basically forcing you to elaborate? I find that 95% of people really don’t care that much but it’s just a polite conversation fille so they ask. They probably aren’t really that interested in the details.
Post # 8
@skippydarling: “Are people so interested that they’re basically forcing you to elaborate? I find that 95% of people really don’t care that much but it’s just a polite conversation fille so they ask. They probably aren’t really that interested in the details.“
I’m also having trouble believing that so many people are so interested in every little detail of your wedding planning you’re being forced to discuss it.
Just say “Everything’s going really well thank you. I cannot wait till the big day” or something similar and then continue on with asking the question you need to ask, or ask them something about themselves etc.
Post # 9
@skippydarling: I think you guys are right. I guess I just feel like I’m being rude if I only update a little, but perhaps I should just change the subject. There’s only one person in particular that asks questions about every little detail–I guess I’ll just try to avoid her if I can!