Post # 1
I live in a different state from my bridesmaids and the wedding venue and last time I visited they tried on dresses. I told them which one to get, but it turns out that I gave them the wrong link and I got two dresses confused. They’re both the same style and have the same color and material, but one of my bridesmaids was stressed out because she went to the store yesterday to order her dress and was really confused because the dress link that I gave them is one you can only order online…unfortunately my phone was also dying and I wasn’t at home so I had to hang up.
I just…I told my bridesmaids that I really don’t care that much about the dresses as long as they’re coordinated in some way. Part of me wants to maybe just tell them to order the one that’s only online because it is a lot cheaper than the other one, but then they might freak out over not being able to try it on beforehand. I’m so bad at articulating what I want and I don’t know what to do or what to tell them to do. I might just try to get a skype-meeting going on later today if possible to try to iron out details with them.
I’m afraid of them getting pissed off at me in this process, but I didn’t even want a lot to begin with. But everyone wants me to give them really specific instructions regarding colors, styles, color of shoes…I said they could wear white shoes and they said only brides can wear white shoes and I just really don’t think minor details like that are worth fussing over.
Post # 3
@littlegreenleaf: I think having a Skype meeting with them will help you relax – they’re your friends after all and that’s what friends are for – making you feel better when you are stressed out.
If they are very adamant about not wearing white shoes, then you can ask them to wear a different color shoes. It sounds like they are pretty willing to purchase whatever you ask them to wear, so if you choose another color it shouldn’t be a big deal. I totally understand about not caring, though – I told my BMs to wear nude shoes and I really don’t care at all what they look like, that’s up to them. But my BMs freaked out a little too, so I literally Googled “bridesmaids nude shoes” and emailed them a picture of some generally good-looking, coordinated nude heels on a group of BMs.
Does the store with the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses have free returns? If it’s easiest, just tell the girls to buy them online and return them if they don’t fit. We’ve still got 3 months until November 🙂 But if any of your BMs are on a really tight budget, then you can talk to them individually and explain the situation and let them know that they can buy the dress in-store.
Post # 4
Yeah I think a “meeting” will definitely help. It’s just so hard to get us all around at the same time. Organizing this stuff can be frustrating, I’m definitely not a leader. The problem with returns which is my fault is that it’s cutting it close to November…the woman at the store said it can take as long as 8 weeks for dresses to come in, and my maid of honor is a size zero which they don’t carry so she would definitely need alterations. I wanted to do the alterations for them because I’ve done them on my own dresses before and then I remembered that I’m in a completely different state and I’m probably going to be really busy the week of >.< And the other store we looked at in July, the woman said we should have put in orders by June (?!?!?) Oh my goodness…I guess I’ve been lala land lol.
Part of the reason I also wish this whole process could be a lot more lackadaisical is because I honestly don’t really know what I want half the time and even when I do, I change my mind a lot. Which is why I picked the second dress I liked for myself, bought it online, and stuck with it.