- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So, our VR is now on hold due to my husband’s deployment. We had decided to wait until he came back and stick to the plan of it just being the two of us. We don’t need the drama of relatives.
Well, today I found out that my aunt is talking about getting married and wants to have her wedding in HI. Incidentally, where I live. The frustrating part about this is that my grandmother and other relatives are talking about coming here. I mean, to my house for the wedding. Now the reason I feel petty is because when we planned the VR, I had planned for relatives to stay with us but they went on about how much it would cost to come here so I decided to cancel it and later we decided to have it just the two of us. BUT now that my aunt is getting married again, everyone just decided to come no questions asked and now they are asking to stay at my house. Like, where was the effort before? I feel resentful and used because I dont get called unless people need something and I feel just so damn petty.
This isn’t the first time I had to deal with some of this drama. My cousin (the engaged aunt’s daughter) called in October that she was going to stay a week while she was visiting here. I felt a little bothered because she never calls except to ask something. I wanted to say no until my mom guilt-tripped me and so I tried to put her visit in a better perspective. We never had a guest before and besides sometimes I like my cousin so I got our guest room ready and bought a futon, new sheets for her, etc. Well, a WEEK before she was to come (next week) I get a call saying that her plan of renting a house near the beach fell through and she won’t be staying here. I feel like such an ass.
Edit: I forgot to say that I feel petty because the occasion I had was a VR so maybe that is why people didn’t want to put too much of an effort and on that part I understand but I also feel like this isn’t the first time where something important to me was forgotten or belitted by others. I know this wedding is important and I don’t blame my aunt at all but rather the relatives who assumed that they would be staying here without question when before coming here was such a bother and that is a big reason why I feel petty.