(Closed) I feel too guilty to get excited

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2759 posts
Sugar bee

Your friends should be excited and happy for you – if they aren’t, then honestly? They aren’t worth being friends with. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s ridiculous to make someone feel bad for being happy or having exciting things happen to them. It is weird being the first one in a group of friends to do something life-changing, be it marriage, having children or even going to college. I understand that you don’t want to “rub it in”, but you honestly aren’t! Rubbing it in would be talking about your wedding 24/7 and looking for excuses to bring it up. Which I know you aren’t doing, because like me you don’t relish being the center of attention. Try to relax and realize that this is a time to be happy, excited and bask in the glow of your engagement. It’s a major milestone in life and you will have plenty of years down the road to be excited for them!

Think of it this way: say it was one of your friends who got engaged first, rather than you. Would you be happy for her? Of course you would! So trust that your friends are happy for you. And if not, then like I said… I’d consider finding new friends who don’t need everyone around them to be equally unhappy.

If you find many don’t want to talk about your wedding, then you can always just spend your time on Wedding Bee 🙂 I know that I come here a lot so I don’t overdo my wedding talk with friends and family.

Post # 4
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

I agree with jocember, I applied to be a blogger here so my bridesmaids would get a break (a few weeks after I asked them I realized I was more or less “blogging” to them (via e-mail) about all the planning).

On top of that, when you are in the pre-gagement phase, there are infinite possibilities and countless styles or looks your wedding could have. However once you start planning in real life, things get narrowed down pretty quickly. I found that took some of the “any thing is possible” excitement out of it, but as more and more details come together and you are able to imagine your actual wedding, the excitement comes back!

I too am the first of my friends so I try to monitor my rambling about the wedding but honestly they expect that so don’t feel too bad! They might not even want to get married right now!

Good luck! Hope you find the thrill agian! 🙂

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