Post # 1
My SO (MJ) is one of the worst picky eaters that I have ever met. Cooking dinner now leads to arguements because it is always a huge task to come up with something we will both eat, or I have to make two meals. MJ has also gained weight in the last couple of years that is starting to bother him. So not only am I trying to find something we both like, I am trying to find something healthy.
I am the type of person that will try anything and I generally will eat just about everything except red meat. MJ will pretty much only eat: ribs, chicken tenders, fries, cheese pizza, potatoes, plain noodles, hot dogs, mac n cheese, and plain bread. ( I call this the preschool diet). No seafood, veggies, pasta dishes with sauce, fruit, soups, casseroles, or any condiments.
Is anyone else with an extremely picky eater or have any advice on how I can get him to try new things?
Post # 3
Mine was…. but it was more of a result of Cancer treatment before we met…
To fix this problem I told him I wouldn’t cook (because his picky tendencies like smelling it & asking everything that was in it were making me feel insecure after awhile)…. and then cooked what worked for me… He didn’t starve very long before coming around. lol
Post # 4
I know that when FI and I started dating, the kid wouldn’t touch veggies other than romaine lettuce and uncooked carrots lol…he now will eat just about everything I put in front of him. His mom only ever served canned veggies when he was growing up (she’s just lazy) so he never had them prepared well. Have you tried to introduce him to things? I would just make some for me, and ask him to try a little bit. Eventually, he realized that he liked these types of food. I’ve even gotten him to eat fish too!
Post # 5
I have this problem. I try to make things with things he doesn’t like sort of “hidden.” Then he ends up liking them, and I say HA! Like, he hates hates hates spinach, but loooves this spinachand sausage fritatta that I make. He also hates sauce and condiments, so I know what you’re going through. If he doesn’t like soup, try something thicker like chili. Casserole is a pretty general term. What exactly does he dislike about them? If you can figure that out, perhaps you can make a trick one with veggies in it. A lot of casseroles are made with cream of such and such soup, which I hate, so I don’t generally like casseroles in that sense. . .
Post # 6
I married a picky eater. I used to ask him “Do you eat this? Do you eat that?” He always said no. That was troubling to me because I eat just about anything and I love to cook. I eventually figured out he had never tried much of anything. I also learned that his mom is pickier than he is and was the reason he had never tried many foods. He told me he was in college before he was ever exposed to broccoli! Are you kidding me? Anyway, I made up my mind I would cook what I wanted and if put it in front of him. I found out he will try most everything and he likes most of it. What he doesn’t eat I will take for lunch the following day – and he can get PB&J for himself if he doesn’t want to eat what I cook. (Which is very rare.) There is no way I would cook two meals, and he doesn’t expect me to. His problems are all due to his upbringing. Now he eats in MY kitchen!!! He has figured out he had to get with my plan or be hungry. : )
Post # 7
I think the general consensus is that he won’t starve… he will eat… he’s a guy.. even if he wants to be stubborn he won’t last too long. lol
Post # 8
Have you tried making agreements with him to expand his horizons? Such as “one day a week we’ll try something new”.
My FI wasn’t ever over picky, but his mom is a bit of a picky eater, so there was sooo many types of food he had never been exposed to; and he hadn’t even eaten spicy food either. Now he loves spicy food and is always on-board to try new things.
Post # 9
Thanks bees! Actually about a week or so ago his mother offered him $100 to eat applesauce and he said no. He says it is the texture of things that bothers him. Hopefully I will find a way to get him to try new things. Both of his parents will also try just about anything. ugh
Post # 10
I am your SO lol. I’m one of the pickiest eaters I know and generally I have to tell people to consider me to be an 8 year old. If an 8 year old would eat it… its about 75% that I will. I don’t eat much meat, almost no red meat, i hate cooked veggies, i don’t like most sauces, I don’t like ethnic food, etc.
The solution in our house is that I cook. I do think my dh gets sick of eating the same things all the time so I try to mix it up a little for him like tonight he had real burgers and I had a veggie burger. I’ll often buy him a steak to make himself and I’ll just eat whatever I want. Or I’ll make him chinese food and eat cheese and crackers, etc. But basically I have to be the lead because him trying to cook for me almost always ends badly.
Post # 11
CorgiTales, I’m right there with you! I’m the picky one in our relationship. I am slowly getting better but my problem is texture also. My SO will pretty much eat anything, except veggies, and I will eat pretty much any veggie but not much of anything else! I am the one who cooks and he does get tired of eating the same stuff all the time so I will make him something he likes and make something different for myself. When we were going over the food for our wedding, he was so excited about everything and I was thinking, yuck! Hahaha!!
Post # 12
Just about every time I eat a something, I ask him if he would like to try it. He seems to be afraid to try new things. He has maybe tried 3 new things in the past 2 years. I think I am going to try to sneak foods into meals (although its a litle hard with fries and tenders 🙂 If this doesnt work, I will most likely have him cook his own meals, but I know he will just end up at McDonalds. I guess I just don’t get it because he ate veggies and fruit up until he was like 5.
@abbyful We have made deals but he never follows through with it by saying he will next time we eat. He said he would try one new thing a month and has yet to do so. I’m really just hoping he can eat a better variety before we have children so that they don’t think that because daddy doesn’t eat veggies and fruits, they don’t either.
Thanks again for all of your help!!
Post # 13
I’m the picky eater in our relationship (although no where near your SO’s levels).
I definitely understand his comment about texture. The texture of foods really get to me and sometimes the taste may be fine but I just can’t eat it because of the texture.
That said – I am willing to try new things (although it is rare I find new things that I like). For instance, I tried both bone marrow and sweet meats last week. Thought both were gross (the bone marrow for the texture and the sweet meats for the taste).
Post # 14
Well, if he’s wondering why he gained weight.. I’d say its that he doesn’t like to eat anything healthy haha. This would drive me insane. Kingy can be a little picky but he’s not too bad. Moreso, he just likes to be “in the mood for” whatever I’m cooking. However, if he complains and he sees I’m about to unleash some rage for him not wanting what I’ve already started to cook, he’ll change his tune and enjoy every bite of his meal, haha.
Post # 15
Mine is the same, but with somewhat broader tastes. I’m Asian, so it’s hard for me to reconcile someone who isn’t even willing to try what I’m cooking.
Now, I just let him be. If there’s something I’m making that he MIGHT eat, I just casually ask if he wants some. Sometimes he says yes, sometimes he says no… no biggie!
Post # 16
Mine is a VERY picky eater, but his mother is even worse. I mean she just recently (at the age of 50) tried blueberries and green beans. When we get pizza it has to be just cheese with no oregano. DH is a little bit better and since he’s been with me he’s gotten a LOT better. But it’s still difficult sometimes. He actually tends to cook because he knows if I cook, the probability of sour cream or mayo or something else ending up in the food is larger :-P. He’s gotten much better about trying things. What worked for us is to have HIM look up some new recipes that looked good. He got excited about trying something new. However, I know I’ll never be able to get him to eat authentic Mexican, or sushi, or anything like that. So I make sure I go out with friends who like to eat that stuff so that I can eat it too sometimes (I hate cooking two seperate meals).