Post # 1
So I posted awhile back I had dress regret and then when I finally picked it up I was so disappointed. My mom was so upset as she wanted me to have the dress of my dreams as she hated hers. We ended up getting in a small tiff about it. I didn’t want to seem like an ungrateful brat but I really hate it.
I felt pressured in the dress shop and jumped into dress with all the excitement way too fast. I wish that I would have listened to my mom in the first place and shopped around and tried on different styles. I went in with the mindset of what I wanted and I wish I would have been more receptive to other styles.
I have been been saying that I’ll just get it altered and stick with this dress as I can’t imagine spending more money on a fucking dress for 8 hours. But last night in bed with my FI I said out loud “I hate my dress I want a new one”.
So on EBay it went today. While I won’t get anywhere near what we paid for it I’m glad I went with my gut and made a decision. Now my wedding is in 6 months so I better get my ass in gear!
To all brides! Try on a bunch of dresses even ones you don’t think you will like!
Post # 3
I ended up selling the first dress I purchased and bought a new one two months before the wedding!! I completely agree with your advice!
Post # 4
@nikbee: Just curious.. what’s the dress you picked and what’s the dress you think you want? Sorry you have dress regret, but at least you’re making a decision about it and moving forward! Good luck!
Post # 5
What did you dislike about it (for my own future dress shopping)?
Post # 6
do you have pictures of the dress? or what you don’t like about it?
Post # 7
i picked the Maggie Sottero Zabrina. I thought because I was having a beach wedding that I needed a simple dress which in reality I am anything but! My favorite color is sparkly. I have no idea what I am going to look for but I do know I want something more elaborate, structured, and not an Aline.
I would recommend choosing a few styles you like but also be open to what a bridal consultant recommends. She fits 1000s of girls so she might know something that would look good on your shape that you wouldn’t have thought about! My bridal consultant didn’t recommend anything and really pushed the dress I had on.
Post # 8
@nikbee: that’s a really pretty dress! i’m with you though – i need something more for my dress. i’m also have a destination wedding, but will likely end up with a poofy ruffly ballgown type dress (like the allure 8862 or maggie sottero jerrica). just because it’s casual and on a beach doesn’t mean the BRIDE has to dress down. Good luck finding your dream dress!!
Post # 9
@nikbee: I totally agree about trying all different shapes and styles. Consultants can be hit or miss. I had one that I told I didn’t want a strapless dress, and instead of bringing me dresses with straps she kept trying to convince me that I could totally pull strapless off ‘I don’t feel comfortable showing that much skin’ just would not get through to her. One of my other consultants was a huge hit for me. She put me, miss tom-boy anti-poof, in a ballgown and bam there was my dress (it’s the least poofy ballgown I’ve seen). While buying my dress we talked to the shop owner and she said a good consultant should be able to find your dress in 4 or 5 dresses. One way to tell if you have a good consultant is how well they listen to you and how many questions they ask you. 10 minutes after meeting my consultant she knew that my mom and I love illusion backs, the dress must have lace, I was getting married outdoors on grass in the summer, and I wasn’t into bling at all. She was the one who pulled my dress and it was dress 5 or 6.
Post # 10
@nikbee: First of – you look beautiful in this dress and you have a great figure!!
Completely understand how you feel about having second thoughts. I too got caught up in the moment and purchased a dress but woke up the next morning and felt instant regret. I was fortunate to be able to cancel the order but I ended up with a dress that was completely different to what I thought I wanted. It took time to explore and understand the right silhouette and yes these things cannot be rushed. In the end I found “the dress” which was nothing what I originally expected. Funny how you draw your thoughts and options on pictures but only try them on and reconsider, explore and find something completely different, etc.
I think its fantastic that you have made this decision early. Trust your gut!
Post # 11
@nikbee: I completely understand how you feel. I was pressured into the first dress I bought. Not really “pressured” but I was shopping with someone (FSIL) who is much more outspoken than me and it’s very easy to get caught up in others opinions and not speak up for yourself. While the dress I got I don’t hate (it really is beautiful, fun/funky).I knew from the moment I handed over my money it wasn’t “my” dress.
And to all brides, don’t think you’re suppose to have a certain type of dress b/c of your wedding style. I’m actually eloping and I want the dress of my dreams no matter what…not a short white dress (typical for eloping).
I have since found MY dress and I hope you have too!
Post # 12
@ralessio: Thank you so much for talking to me this morning! I went and tried on the Gemma and as much as I wanted to love it… it just wasn’t me either!
HOWEVER as soon as the Victor Harper slipped over my hips I squealed and said Holy FUCKING shit outloud! Unbelievable! It was everything I didn’t want, silk/satin, lace, mermaid style, and buttons! But you know what I am utterly obsessed! I finally felt like a beautiful bride! I just email Kimmie at jasmines to get a quote! I am beyond thrilled!
Post # 13
@nikbee: Oh that’s an amazing dress! I thought I would love the MS Divina from pictures, but once on me it didn’t live up to what I hoped. I had that “holy fucking shit” moment with the red gemma. Once you have finally found your dress it’s a combination of relief, happyiness and excitement.
Please keep us posted on the JBS thread with the VH dress!
Do you have a photo of you in that dress? I’m sure it looks unbelievable on you!
Post # 14
@ralessio: Unfortunately I couldn’t take pics. I’m going to a Maggie trunk show tomorrow because I want to try on the Divina to. I just love fluff!! Soon as I hear back from Kimmie I will def update on the JBS thread! I am actually so thankful to have found that on the bee!!