Post # 1
I messaged my aunt about how I’ve been feeling about my cousin. I’m sure she’s feeling the same way. And my mom told me the other week that she knows everything I do now.
I’m praying this goes well. I feel awful bringing up something that’s an uncomfortable topic with an aunt I’m not that close to.
P.S. my cousin grew up with me my whole life. We were like sisters. About a year ago she cut me out of her life for reasons she refuses to explain to me. She’s out of control. She thinks the weed isn’t fucking up her brain. She thinks she can get away with all of this and it’s ok to hurt me. I’ve tried to get over her, stop thinking about her, something, but each and every time I find myself wanting her back in my life. She refuses to come to my wedding. My heart is in half over this. I figured my aunt would understand as she’s lost her daughter, too. Why does bad stuff happen to people like this?
Post # 3
@SweetRose2011: Thats good- maybe her mother will be able to reach her?
and it happens because something in their life is missing- or something in them is missing and the absense of this, whatever it is- faith in yourself, that you deserve better, that your afraid of wanting more than the life you have, all of that manifests itself into something negative, if you allow all those fears and that absense to take over your life. I honestly think the absence of honesty, self love, and reality is whats making your cousin make these choices.
Post # 4
@Bellanouva:I agree with everything you said. She doesn’t feel welcome by anyone, so she’s putting herself in a position where she thinks violence is what makes her feel loved. (or delusions). I don’t think her mother will be able to reach her. But maybe talking with someone who knows how I feel will help with the hurt
My mother claims to know how I feel, but she doesn’t. She keeps trying to compare me trying to talk to my cousin with my mom trying to talk to me.
Post # 5
I know its really tough. I had someone really close to me (sorry, I like keeping things anonymous here) who got into drugs and all sorts of things a few years ago. It was really hard when they distanced everyone close to them, and wouldn’t listen no matter how much anyone wanted to help. They also thought that pot wasn’t messing with them, but it was really changing their entire personailty. It took years, and hitting rock bottom, but they’ve finally gown up, stopped the drugs and whatnot, and is starting to mend fences again. Its slow, but its nice. It might take your cousin some time, but hopefully she’ll come around. Try to be there for her, remind her that you care even when she doesn’t want it, and someday things will be better :).