Post # 1
So after a year long search to find a new job, I finally got one. I was able to leave the credit union I had been working at for nearly 2 years and got to start a job as a Mortgage Loan Processor on the first of August.
And by the end of the first week, I was a nervous, miserable wreck. And I have basically been the same every week since. I may have had one week collectively where I felt I could do my job. The rest has just been hell. I have had nightmares. My stomach has gone to hell. I cry. I come home and have to fight tears while my brain is plagued with thoughts of how much I hate it there or the stress it brings.
Now I’ve never done anything with mortgages, so I expected it to be different. And the job itself isn’t what is hard. It’s my boss. He is never there. Makes snarky, underhanded comments like a bitchy woman. Talks down to me because I don’t remember something that I may have only done once or if there is something I am unsure about. Never there. Doesn’t do his job like he is supposed to, thus making mine harder. Has yet to ever sit down and walk me through a process, just threw me in head first in the deep end. Have I mentioned that HE IS NEVER THERE?!?!?! How am I supposed to learn from you when your ass doesn’t come in till 12 pm? or 3 pm? Or just whenever? I can’t get much done when I need your help, or you aren’t answering my emails, or when I need you to sign stuff and you take all damn day?
I also understand that everyone makes mistakes at a new job that they aren’t used to, but I have never had such a hard time adjusting to a new job. I keep making a bunch of little mistakes because nothing is the same. Everything loan or lender does things differently and I don’t know how to do most of it. Video turtorials can only do so much.
I am trying so hard, but for every step forward I make, it feels like I end up taking 5 steps back. I’m trying to not let myself feel like I’ve made a mistake, but it’s getting harder to fight that off. Not to mention that part of my stress is mostly from the fear of getting fired as well as the fear of never being able to find something better. It took a year of searching and turning down temp agencies to finally found this. I can’t afford for either of those to happen.
My SO has told me to give it till at least the end of this month before I start putting my resume out there so more, but how do I explain that I want to leave my brand new job without it looking bad on me? Hell this job has been causing me grief since I got it back in the beginning of may. Anyone have any suggestions for job searching or how to explain leaving a new position?
Other than that, thank you for reading.
Post # 2
Are there other employees? Could they possibly train you? I think you should stick it out as long as you can. I wouldn’t quit a job until I had another in place.
Also- saying he makes bitchy comments “like a woman” really rubs me the wrong way. Anyone can say nasty remarks.
Post # 3
Aly7489: I’d start getting my résumé out there yesterday. You’ve only been there for approx. 6 weeks. If you’re there for less than 3 months, it doesn’t have to be on your résumé.
you have 6 weeks to find another job. You can do it!!
I had a similar issue with another job — I could have written your post. It was hell and life is too short. I left and had another job in a month. There are always other jobs but sometimes it’s a matter of timing, skills and culture fit and you need to be flexible. People don’t leave companies — they leave managers.
Post # 4
I am in the exact situation, trying to find a new job. Been at my current job for 4 months and I go home crying daily.
Your FI says to wait, I say start applying now. I’ve applied to just over 800 jobs in the past 4 months, and nothing yet. It takes a while to find a job, and it can’t hurt to apply. I say leave this job off your resume (as what I am doing). Life is way too short to be unhappy with a job you spend most of your time awake at.
Post # 5
I’d source out training materials, knowledgeable employees, and start making detailed notes so I didn’t have to keep asking the same questions. Sometimes you need to take initiative and your boss won’t always hold your hand.
The grass isn’t always greener – as you’ve seen. You can’t just keep leaving jobs when you don’t like people. There will always be people you like and don’t like at every job. I’d focus less on your boss (you can’t change him) and more on what you can do to learn.
Post # 6
New jobs kinda always suck. I have never had a new job that did not make me physically ill with nerves in the early days.
Have you clearly voiced your needs to your boss? Nothing will change unless you are clear about what support is required for you to achieve.
Post # 7
Loan processing is complicated & you probably have a lot of people pressuring you. It’s simply unfair not to have someone train you.
I agree about getting your resume out there.
Post # 8
cls9q: “Makes snarky, underhanded comments like a bitchy woman.” That’s what OP said. There’s a big difference between her statement and yours.
Post # 9
I would give it time. It’s hard to learn new things, and if you quit now, you’ll have to explain it to prospective employers, and it sends the message of “I run from challenges” or “I don’t like to work hard.” I understand that’s not the case, but as someone who does hiring, when I have that and compare it to people with a solid work history, I’m going to pick the other person.
I would not leave this off your resume. There will then be a gap, and most employers will ask about the gap at the resume. You’d then have to say you were at a job for a short amount of time and quit, but then it looks like you’re hiding something.
Honestly, I’d wait until you’ve been there for six months to start looking for other things. It’ll give you a chance to learn the job, and give you a respectable amount of time on the job before you jump ship.
Post # 10
Scorpio88: 800? What field are you in? That seems high to me. I do agree that she should start applying now and life is definitely too short to be tortured at work!
Post # 11
I would give it time. Unfortunately I was also thrown head first into my job so I know how frustrating it is. However, with time, I have come to enjoy it.
Are there other employees there who can help train you? Is there someone higher than your boss that you can speak to about setting up a training schedule? Or maybe an HR department you can speak to about training? Also, write down everything that you do, even if it seems menial, so that you don’t ask repetitive questions. As a mentor I dislike it when I’m asked the same question over and over- I deal with it nicely but it’s a huge pet peeve.
ETA: I do think you should start sending it resumes. When I said “stick it out” I meant that I don’t think you should quit until you have something. Good luck!
Post # 12
Sadly there are no other coworkers in my office to help train me. It is just me, the marketing girl, and the boss. I’m not asking him to hold my hand. I’m just asking for a little guidance and assistance. I have a notebook where I take a lot of notes so I can make sure I have the steps for things. He took a few jabs at me for it, but I don’t care.
I hate the idea of jumping ship on a job I just started. I am the type that usually sticks it out even though I’m miserable. But damn this one is hard. I don’t know how to explain that I left a new job without sounding like a flake. I found one I’d like to apply for that offers a much higher salary than what I am making now, but I’m afraid to.
I think if I don’t leave soon, I will try to stick it out till I’ve been there 6 months or a year. I just hope I can make it without falling into a complete state of depression.
Post # 13
Is this a small business or is do you have an HR department? Part of a chain, ect? FYI it is ok to jump ship now. I do a lot of hiring and if I saw this on a resume I would ask about it before nixing your resume. I would just have a good response to why you are leaving prepared for the interview.
Post # 14
You know…. I switched locations in my job 5 months ago. I had been working at my previous location for 4 years and LOVED it. But we bought a house and the commute was killing me so I had to move.
I’d go to work in tears every night. I was working graveyard and my supervisors SUCKED. I hated life. And on top of it all I’m injured so I’m very limited on what I can and can’t do, they made me feel useless. I hated it.
I changed my shift and I am not working during the day and I LOVE IT!!!!! My supervisors are amazing, my coworkers are all AWESOME! They make me feel included and useful. I come to work with a smile on my face. This started this month. I dealt with the other crap for 4 months.
It is an adjustment period I think….. stick it out for a while, who knows, once you get used to it and learn how to do everything, you may like it!
And if you do decide to leave, a perfect excuse for leaving early is that it wasn’t challenging enough. 😉
Post # 15
Aly7489: I know it’s not ideal to leave a job so quickly, but if you have a good history, then one short job shouldn’t be an issue. Most HR understand that sometimes things just dont work out and one short stint shouldnt be a red flag.
If you plan on staying with mortgages in your next job interview (if they ask why you are leaving so soon), just say “I found that it wasn’t a good fit.” If they ask for more information as to what you mean, “It think he was expecting me to have more knowledge and experience in how mortgages work. I needed a little more training than he was able to give. I have no doubt that with proper guidance and training I would love working at XYZ company. However, I have high standards for myself and was frustrated with the little mistakes I was making due to lack of training.”
If you realize mortgages just arent the area in finance you want to be in, then in your job interview just say “I realized that mortgages just werent a good fit for me. I thought all finance jobs were all the same and was looking forward to the new challenge. However, it soon became apparent that it wasnt. I think this job would be better for me because X,Y and Z.”