I finally started my new job and I'm more miserable than I was before….

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
1905 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Are there other employees? Could they possibly train you? I think you should stick it out as long as you can. I wouldn’t quit a job until I had another in place. 

Also- saying he makes bitchy comments “like a woman” really rubs me the wrong way. Anyone can say nasty remarks. 

Post # 3
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Aly7489: I’d start getting my résumé out there yesterday. You’ve only been there for approx. 6 weeks. If you’re there for less than 3 months, it doesn’t have to be on your résumé. 

you have 6 weeks to find another job. You can do it!! 

I had a similar issue with another job — I could have written your post. It was hell and life is too short. I left and had another job in a month. There are always other jobs but sometimes it’s a matter of timing, skills and culture fit and you need to be flexible. People don’t leave companies — they leave managers. 

Post # 4
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I am in the exact situation, trying to find a new job. Been at my current job for 4 months and I go home crying daily.

Your FI says to wait, I say start applying now. I’ve applied to just over 800 jobs in the past 4 months, and nothing yet. It takes a while to find a job, and it can’t hurt to apply. I say leave this job off your resume (as what I am doing). Life is way too short to be unhappy with a job you spend most of your time awake at.

Post # 5
643 posts
Busy bee

I’d source out training materials, knowledgeable employees, and start making detailed notes so I didn’t have to keep asking the same questions. Sometimes you need to take initiative and your boss won’t always hold your hand. 

The grass isn’t always greener – as you’ve seen. You can’t just keep leaving jobs when you don’t like people. There will always be people you like and don’t like at every job. I’d focus less on your boss (you can’t change him) and more on what you can do to learn.

Post # 6
3352 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

New jobs kinda always suck. I have never had a new job that did not make me physically ill with nerves in the early days. 

Have you clearly voiced your needs to your boss? Nothing will change unless you are clear about what support is required for you to achieve. 

Post # 7
4878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Loan processing is complicated & you probably have a lot of people pressuring you.  It’s simply unfair not to have someone train you.

I agree about getting your resume out there.  

Post # 8
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

cls9q:  “Makes snarky, underhanded comments like a bitchy woman.” That’s what OP said. There’s a big difference between her statement and yours.

Post # 9
11614 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would give it time.  It’s hard to learn new things, and if you quit now, you’ll have to explain it to prospective employers, and it sends the message of “I run from challenges” or “I don’t like to work hard.”  I understand that’s not the case, but as someone who does hiring, when I have that and compare it to people with a solid work history, I’m going to pick the other person.

I would not leave this off your resume.  There will then be a gap, and most employers will ask about the gap at the resume.  You’d then have to say you were at a job for a short amount of time and quit, but then it looks like you’re hiding something. 

Honestly, I’d wait until you’ve been there for six months to start looking for other things.  It’ll give you a chance to learn the job, and give you a respectable amount of time on the job before you jump ship.

Post # 10
189 posts
Blushing bee

Scorpio88:  800? What field are you in? That seems high to me. I do agree that she should start applying now and life is definitely too short to be tortured at work!

Post # 11
6450 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would give it time. Unfortunately I was also thrown head first into my job so I know how frustrating it is. However, with time, I have come to enjoy it.

Are there other employees there who can help train you? Is there someone higher than your boss that you can speak to about setting up a training schedule? Or maybe an HR department you can speak to about training? Also, write down everything that you do, even if it seems menial, so that you don’t ask repetitive questions. As a mentor I dislike it when I’m asked the same question over and over- I deal with it nicely but it’s a huge pet peeve.

ETA: I do think you should start sending it resumes. When I said “stick it out” I meant that I don’t think you should quit until you have something. Good luck!

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Post # 13
250 posts
Helper bee

Is this a small business or is do you have an HR department? Part of a chain, ect? FYI it is ok to jump ship now.  I do a lot of hiring and if I saw this on a resume I would ask about it before nixing your resume.  I would just have a good response to why you are leaving prepared for the interview.


Good luck!

Post # 14
2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You know…. I switched locations in my job 5 months ago. I had been working at my previous location for 4 years and LOVED it. But we bought a house and the commute was killing me so I had to move.

I’d go to work in tears every night. I was working graveyard and my supervisors SUCKED. I hated life. And on top of it all I’m injured so I’m very limited on what I can and can’t do, they made me feel useless. I hated it. 

I changed my shift and I am not working during the day and I LOVE IT!!!!! My supervisors are amazing, my coworkers are all AWESOME! They make me feel included and useful. I come to work with a smile on my face. This started this month. I dealt with the other crap for 4 months. 

It is an adjustment period I think….. stick it out for a while, who knows, once you get used to it and learn how to do everything, you may like it! 

And if you do decide to leave, a perfect excuse for leaving early is that it wasn’t challenging enough. 😉

Post # 15
5815 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Aly7489:  I know it’s not ideal to leave a job so quickly, but if you have a good history, then one short job shouldn’t be an issue. Most HR understand that sometimes things just dont work out and one short stint shouldnt be a red flag. 

If you plan on staying with mortgages in your next job interview (if they ask why you are leaving so soon), just say “I found that it wasn’t a good fit.” If they ask for more information as to what you mean, “It think he was expecting me to have more knowledge and experience in how mortgages work. I needed a little more training  than he was able to give. I have no doubt that with proper guidance and training I would love working at XYZ company. However, I have high standards for myself and was frustrated with the little mistakes I was making due to lack of training.”

If you realize mortgages just arent the area in finance you want to be in, then in your job interview just say “I realized that mortgages just werent a good fit for me. I thought all finance jobs were all the same and was looking forward to the new challenge. However, it soon became apparent that it wasnt.  I think this job would be better for me because X,Y and Z.” 

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