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As our wedding day creeps closer Fiance and I have been securing the gifts we’re giving to the Best man, Maid of honor, fathers of the brides and mothers of the brides.
We ordered some Flasks from Etsy. We asked for 2 father of the bride, 1 best man. I promptly received an email with other options, since clearly we have the wrong selection of two fathers. We could have step father, we could have god father. I explained, two brides and they apologized, red faced I imagine.
Last night I had a phone call from the company making the silk robes I’m ordering for the mothers and my Maid/Matron of Honor. They were packaging my robes for mailing when they realized that there were two mothers of the bride robes. The lady was very nice on the phone, she could change one to mother of the groom, step mother, whatever… When I explained that yes I did want two mother robes, since there were two brides she was a little less diplomatic giving me a bit of attitude that ‘we don’t get a lot of that here.’ (Context “here” is Northern LA…)
I’m trying to only be mildly annoyed by this, and find the humor. If it was a mistake at least these people were trying to correct it before they mailed our items.
Post # 3
Ewww, what an awful experience. I get that they were trying to make sure the order was right, but their attitude was unnecessary. What if you were a hetero couple and one of you had two dads? Or a female couple and one of you had two dads and the other just a mom? Good lord. There are so many types of families today, hello!
Post # 4
Why would anyone want to wear a robe that says step mom? I think that would be ridiculous! Sorry thst you have to deal w such close minded people
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
Oh dear! On the one hand, it’s good that they’re being concientious, because I suspect they’ve have a to deal with a number of dizzy bridezillas who’ve ordered it wrong and then blamed them and kicked off, but on the other perhaps they should have phrased it just as a confirmation of your order rather than immediately assuming you’d made a mistake.
“Hi, we’re just about to put such-and-such into production and wanted to double check your order with you before we did!”
Also, marks lost for the woman being arsey with you. Honestly, not necessary to go on the defensive just because she’s made the wrong assumption.
Post # 6
@Trixxie_90: from a business standpoint the best way to go about this would have been to call and say, “we have had some technical issues lately and we are calling to verify your order to make sure we send you the right product. im so sorry for the inconvenience but could you just go over your order with us to ensure that we are in fact sending you the right items?” Boom, you verify the order is correct without acting like a dick 🙂
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I vacation a lot with my best friend, Mike, who is marrying to a man in November.
Setting up hotels rooms is always a hassle. They always call us claiming a mistake was made: “A king size bed was listed but there are two men assigned to the room. We’ll move them to a double room.”
It never fails to happen.
Even setting up appointments with wedding venders was a pain because they want the Bride’s name on everything. They had to set up one of them as the “Bride” in order to get into their reservations at their venue and even at David’s Bridal (for the bridesmaid dresses).
It has to suck to constantly have to correct and justify your situation. I get so frustrated and it’s not even my relationship. OK, vent over 🙂
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@BeachBride2014: Yes, that is horrible. Same-sex marraige has been cool up here in Ontario for awhile now, but I was part of the fight and when we first got the right it took vendors awhile to realize if you don’t cater to the needs of ALL your clients, then you lose every time. In a large city like Toronto, as a business you are just stupid not to cater to our large LGBTTTIQQQ population. They sure learned fast, and the ones who didn’t lost the game. Hopefully cities in the USA will learn this fast and fix their approach.
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@vorpalette: If people stop for like 2 seconds before acting like morons it’s really not difficult to find ways to not be a dick 🙂
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@stardustintheeyes: LOL for real. That needs to be on a plaque.
Post # 14
@stardustintheeyes: This exactly. I would have laughed it off if it hadn’t sounded like I was in the wrong. At least the Etsy shop owner apologized!
@BeachBride2014: My Fiance and I have had the same reactions. Every wedding show we went to was the same, people assumed she was my Maid/Matron of Honor. We went to have her fitted for a vest and the sales woman kept asking what the groom was going to wear. Even after we said Fiance was I guess, technically the groom…
@chronicwhimsy: I was actually tempted to tell her to shove her robes and refund me.. but I just LOVE the damn robes!!
@MrsOrange: I agree, I think having a ‘step mom’ robe would be incredibly rude!
Post # 15
@Trixxie_90: That’s so annoying and people don’t take hints! Just to other day I went in to pick up my dress for their wedding.
The girl there asked me: “What’s the bride’s name?”
Me: “Mike *****”
Girl: “No the bride’s name.”
Me: “There is no bride.”
Me: “It’s two men.”
Me: “…getting married.”
Girl: “Oh, did one get a dress here?”
This should not be such a foreign concept in CT! This riles me up.