Post # 1
So I’m Mexican and my SO is Filipino. His sister was married to a Mexican guy and had kids with him. My sister’s SO is Black.
The other day SO and I were talking about how we’d deal with various issues with our future kids. We’re both really liberal so kids being gay is a non-issue, but we were talking about, like, a very young child who identifies as transgender or something. Then I asked “What if your son came home and was all crazy Tea Bag, guns blazing, homophobic?” and somehow ended up saying:
“What if your kid said they didn’t believe in interracial relationships and thought your nephews were an abomination and was all ‘And Aunty lia’s Sis and Uncle SO are going to hell!'”
My SO looked at me like I was insane for a second and said “Well, I think I’d first be concerned that my kid didn’t realize that he was himself biracial.”
Do’h! Somehow in that moment I totally forgot that our kids would be biracial! Is that weird or what?
Please tell me some stupid thing you forgot so I don’t feel like such an incredible idiot.
Post # 3
@MexiPino: hahah thats funny. I don’t think I have anything along those lines…does this fall in the same category as talking on your phone while looking for it? 🙂
Post # 4
Hahaha, I say stuff like that all the time. It’s funny, you will look back and laugh 🙂
Post # 5
Hahaha well that’s the beauty of living in California…so much diversity and so many interracial relationships that it can be easy to forget! I say far too many stupid things to try to remember them all 🙂
Post # 6
@MexiPino: This happens to me too, especially because my Hungarian FH has picked up on my occasional Filipino “accent” 😛
His sister’s FH is Jamaican and their son is absolutely adorable! So he’s gonna have some Filipino-Hungarian cousins. Yay for interracial babies 😀
Post # 7
You both are hispanic/latino… or am I missing something?
Post # 8
I can honestly say being biracial has been one of the greatest gifts. My parents are 2 different races and religions and have so much love and mutual respect for each other.
Your child will be a beautiful, open minded gift to this world.
Post # 9
@VivienMarcheline: While the cultures have a lot of similarities, Filipinos are considered Austronesian, and generally more closely identify with Southeast Asian/Pacific Islander, not Latino cultures. But yes— they are kind of a mish-mosh of black, latino and asian so maybe that’s why I don’t always remember.
Post # 10
@VivienMarcheline: Philipinos are not usually considered Latinos. Yes, they were a Spanish colony as well, but most identifiy as Asian /Pacific Islander.
Post # 11
@sharontobemarried: LOL Thanks. We’re actually not planning to have kids, but were just having a philosophical discussion. Kids aren’t totally off the table, but most likely.
@calisunshine3404: Right? My nephew has Jordanian, Chinese, Filipino, Mexican and Black cousins. Family parties are crazy buffets of amazing foods. At one baby shower the Jordanian grandma made all kinds of food and we had a taco guy, so I saw my aunt put guacamole on a falafel. I thought it was so funny I took a picture. 😛
Post # 12
@lovelyhulagirl33: LOL I grew up in a church that was almost 1/3 Filipino, so I learned all my prayers in Tagalog and address people by their Filipino family titles (like every older woman is Ate…). SO’s parents didn’t teach them ANY Tagalog and they are seriously the least Filipino Filipinos I know. When I met his mom I did the bow & touch her hand to my forehead thing. She started CRACKING UP and told him “She’s more Filipino than you are!!”
Post # 13
We’re interracial too… recently we were talking about bullying in school, and FI (he’s chinese/puerto rican, I’m italian/irish) mentioned that our kids may be bullied about their race… and I totally spaced out!
I was like “What, people actually do that?? Why would they do that to our kids?”
And he stared at me like I had three heads!
I’ve been more concerned about our future kids being bullied because they were raised by a big nerd face for a mother!!!
I mean… some of that has to rub off, right? *crosses fingers*
Post # 14
@CakeyP: IF we had kids, I would HOPE that his giant nerdface would rub off on them! I feel like being a nerd keeps you out of a lot of trouble! My cousin’s kids are HUGE nerds and so freaking awesome. The daughter is STUNNING and I just know if she wasn’t a big old dork she’d be in all sorts of trouble. Thank goodness she’s super into reading and K-pop and not boys!
Post # 15
One time when we were talking about future kiddos, SO mentioned he hopes out future daughter has manageable hair like his family. I take FOREVER to do my hair. I’m African American and he’s Caucasian.
I didn’t take it offensively! However, I just gave him the face because our children have a 99.9% chance of having curly little fro-puffs haha.
Post # 16
Lol. My DH is Caucasian and I’m Chinese. I forget sometimes as well and because he’s never had to deal with racism, and no one has ever dared raise it to him, he doesn’t think about it unless I raise it.
My sister has often been mistaken for Filipino, to the point where old Filipino grannies will speak Tagalog to her if they see her. My BIL is Hispanic and my nephew (their son) is SO cute. But I joke that they should teach him Tagalog (Filipino) since he’s totally going to look like one 😉