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I think you need to get on the same page about marriage before you bring up the ring unfortunately! I think if you bring up a ring he will feel pressured and it may be out of left field if he isn't even considering proposing right now!
Once you are on the same page about the marriage then I think you could bring up the ring!
Good Luck!
I would say let's start a club, but I think there is already one... I found the ring that is wonderful and awesome and the absolute bestest.
He talks about "let's get married in Aruba". And kids and raising them and all of those other things.
He said several years ago that he'd probably need a kick in the bum to start things rolling. I could show him the ring as the kick in the bum, as I know he's going to want my input. It feels a bit forward of me to say "oh hey I found the ring, you know, in case you want to buy it or something", so I will more than likely not say it, and continue posting about oh he says kick him in the bum and I don't want to and woe is me. Then he will tell me to get over myself. I'm still not sure if I want to say "hey I was looking at shinies and found this one and ..."
In short, to answer your question: You could say something along the lines of you were bored and daydreaming and looking at shinies and found THE MOST AWESOMEST shiny ever. OF ALL TIME. and felt the need to show it to him.
Or you could wait for some future-involving conversation to come up, and say "you know, I've always wanted this ring".
Maybe I'm not the person to give a good answer... :(
girlie if I knew the answer to this, I'd definitely not still be in waiting! when you figure it out, let me know! you could ask him where he sees himself in 6 months to a year and just let him know that you think it's time to begin discussing marriage.
Sorry I wish I could help you on this one but I have no idea how to make him propose!
Last night I asked my guy could he write a book for women and the title needs to be: Tips For Women: How To Get Your Man To Propose. He told me he could have it written in five seconds. So he gives me a piece of paper that says "BE PATIENT" with a smiley face! WTH!!!! THE BOOK WOULD BE A ONE LINER! While I thought it was clever I could have smack the smirk off his face! UGH..
You know, if he found a way to publish that so that the first 50 pages were blank (or even lorem ipsum), the middle was a ring-safe sort of thing, and somewhere in the last few page, it was hidden: BE PATIENT!!!
He might be able to make a pretty penny. It'd be a good gift, because if a robber breaks in and see you're wondering "how to get him to propose", he might not go looking for expensive jewelry. If the robber picks it up and thumbs through the first few pages, he'll think "well I can't read this, I'll put it back". And with your shinies inside, they are safe for another day!
LOL @surkim!
I agree with a previous poster--you need to talk to him about marriage! I sent my guy a link to the EXACT ring I wanted, but we knew when we wanted to get married, where, details about after marriage like kids and dogs and salaries, etc. the first marriage conversation is IMPORTANT!
Haha surkim, that made me smile.
@hopefulgirl- definitely talk to him at some point, calmly, no pressure, about his ideas of where the relationship is going. It's definitley good to make sure that you're on the same page!
I think this is one of those subjects that can't be swept under the rug. But on the same hand, it doesn't need to be driven in the ground either and it's sure darn hard (isn't it?) to find the right balance b/c you don't wanna freak him out.
But definitely he needs to know you want to get married and you have to know if he is going to do that or not. He should let you know and imho some guys will coast like this as long as they can without even touching on it. I have a friend who's bf is like that and I wanna have "the talk" with him myself for her!
My guy let me know very very early on in the relationship that he was seeking to be remarried. That was one thing I was glad he got out of the way early on.
We've all hashed this out over on waiting quite a bit imho! That delicate line where you don't over talk about it versus making darn sure you find out what his intent to you is!
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i found the perfect ring.my issue is he hasn't come right out and said he wants to be remarried. i completely understand his job craziness..he is in the navy.one thing he is definate about he wants me to have his children. after the other advice i got on weddingbee i am definately going to tell him i want marriage not just to be a PEZ dispenser of children.i honestly know he is a family,commitment type of guy.how do i bring up the ring i want without freaking him out.plus we see each other a handful of times a year because of his deployments.