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OMG! I'm so terrible.  Last night, I found the ring box. And I know he has 3 decoy boxes hidden somewhere, which I haven't even found, but I KNEW this one was THE box, because it was lavender with a ribbon around it (way too fancy for a decoy).

My boyfriend is the only person who knows that I was that sneaky kid who peeked at her Christmas gifts, and could seal them up so no one would know. So he felt like he needed to be super sneaky about hiding my engagement ring. The only reason he told me he already had the ring was because I was stressing over finaces and if we could even afford the kind of yellow sapphire engagement ring I wanted (that was 2 weeks ago). After the first day he told me...I did look around for it, but I honestly stopped looking for it, because I wanted to be surprised.

I got home last night at 11pm, and it was around midnight when I saw the ring box (and my bf doesn't come home until 2am). So after pacing back and forth, I opened it! It was my engagement ring. It wasn't my favorite setting, but it was one of my top 3, so I was excited. Then I immediately regret opening it!

So today, I actually started searching the WeddingBee forums to see what other woman have done in this situation, and it was killing me. I could pretend I never saw it, and just act surprise (like I've done some Christmases ago when I used to peek at my presents). But I would feel terrible.

Today, I texted him from work asking if I knew something about the proposal would he be upset. He said he would just change whatever I knew about. And I told him that he couldn't change it, and that I found the ring box. And he said that he was going to go exchange the ring!

I FELT TERRIBLE!!! I called him right away so we could stop texting, and I was starting to cry. He said seeing my face when he first showed me the ring was a huge part of the proposal. He seemed really upset at first, but I was clearly more torn up about it then he was. It's so hard to surprise me, and I just ruined one of the biggest surprises.

He then started to ask me if I liked it. I told him, I thought it was pretty, and I would have to get used to it (like I had to get used to the promise ring he bought me, which wasn't my style at first, but I absolutely love the ring now), but I would love any ring that he gave me.

Surprisingly, he was more upset with himself, because that day I found it, he moved it from the original hiding place (actually inside his computer...like he had to unscrew panels just to get to the box), and he shouldn't have moved it. But I was coming out of the shower, and he hid it behind the desk in a panic so I wouldn't see him with the box when I came out of the bathroom.

He wasn't mad at me though, he said he knew if I found it, I'd open it. He actually has a back up ring! There were two settings the same price that he was thinking about. So he said he would go to the store and exchange it for the other setting he was thinking about getting.

And sure enough before he left for work today he went to the jewelry store to have them put the center stone in the other setting (I hate that he knows me so well that he even NEEDED to have a back-up ring). Their person who takes care of that is on vacation so it'll be 2-3 weeks before they can get it done. But, I promise to never again open any presents early, because I never want to feel this terrible or guilty again.

The woman at the jewelry store was so surprised that he wasn't more upset about the ring (he told her the whole story). She said some men have actually returned the ring, or would just be visibly upset that they have to get a whole new ring. He did ask me if I liked the color of the center stone, because the new ring would have the same center stone.

He was glad I was honest with him (even though he was VERY upset), he thinks it'll be a funny story to tell our kids someday. What an awful girlfriend I am! But he said it was in my nature to see what was in the box, it's part of my personality, and he doesn't love me any less. His birthday is next month...I have to get him something extra special now, for being such a good sport about the whole thing. I'm glad I was honest with him though. This experience has completely ruined me for opening presents early though.

@cherrydoll: I'm glad he had a back up plan too. AND I'm glad I didn't ruin the proposal. It's really hard for me to lie to my boyfriend too. So I'm glad I told him now, and not after he proposed...I don't know how he would have reacted if he went through the whole proposal, and I wasn't surprised with the ring :(

@PitBulLover: OMG! I know! I'm bad. No more snooping lol. He actually put himself in my shoes though, and said he probably would have opened it too if he found it. And I totally understand why he was upset. I would be too.

@eloping: VERY MUCH A KEEPER

I was literally crying for 20min when we were on the phone. I kept saying how sorry I was, and how awful I felt. I just felt terrible (and I hate crying at work), so he knew I meant it. I told him I didn't want to tell anyone of our family or friends about this, because I'd probably look like the jerk.

But, I think once we're actually engaged, it'll be a funny story lol. I was just so stressed out about it.

Haha, crazy story... he should NOT have taken it out of the computer!  I am also the ultimate sneak and could not resist looking for my ring!  My fiance, knowing my tendencies, ALSO put my ring INSIDE of his COMPUTER!! but he lucked out because I never found it!!!   He apparently had it hidden in the computer for 4 months waiting for his perfectly planned holiday time proposal.

@Mrs.Collar-to-be: How crazy is that? I honestly would not go into his computer (especially if it requires a screw driver), I can't believe he isn't the only guy who's done that lol.

@Moja Milosc: A year!? I would just die. I know my bf wasn't going to wait all the way until Christmas (He suggested that I wouldn't have to wait til October...but that was before I found the ring), I still don't know a thing about what he's planning for the actual proposal, but I hope the new ring is set soon. I hate all these secrets and surprises lol

@spaniel: I knew that the surprise of it all was more important to my bf, which is probably why I felt super guilty. Lesson learned. I WILL NOT SEE engagement ring #2 before he proposes lol.

@nashanta: Oh dear!! I laughed when I read he hid the box inside his computer. So cute.

Well, we just got back from our Disney World vacation with his family...and WE'RE ENGAGED!!!

We were walking around the Magic Kingdom, and we all stopped by the Cinderella wishing well. His dad was tossing coins in and making wishes, so I thought I'd make one too. I actually wished my boyfriend would propose soon...and literally 1 min after that, we started to walk away, and he said he wanted to show me something.

The castle was changing colors, and right at that moment it was yellow, I tried to hurry and get my camera so I could take a photo of it. But it changed colors before I could get it. While I was doing all that, he was getting the ring out of his pocket. He started saying stuff that FELT like a lead up to a proposal (which surprised me, because I thought he wouldn't be able to pick up the ring until we got BACK from vacation).

He got down on one knee, and asked me to marry him. I was surprised that it was seriously happening, in Disney World, where I was hoping it would happen, literally a minute after I wished for it in the well!!!

I said yes of course, and it's the original ring that I found! Which I'm actually happy about. The more I thought about the ring, and how it was going to NOT be the ring I would get...the more I actually wanted that ring. I'm glad he didn't change it. This ring just suits me! The sapphire is more yellow than I remembered when I accidently found it the first time. And it just sparkles so much.

The center stone is round, and the diamonds are princess cut (two of my favorite cuts). So in the end it worked out perfect, AND he still surprised me. I originally suspected he would propose at Disney, and I thought he told me he wasn't going to, so I would THINK that it wasn't happening that week (even though I still thought it would). Me finding the ring actually made it MORE of a surprise, because he lied to me about replacing it, leading me to believe he wouldn't even have the new ring until after the vacation! It all worked out, and it's such a cute story!

These are all cell phone photos that I took on vacation, but they turned out so pretty!

@Zacharysmom07: Congratulations! I felt like I ruined it also, but in the end I actually didn't. AND we have this cute funny story to tell everyone. We wouldn't be us if we didn't do things a little different. I'm glad your fiance wasn't too mad :)

@eeruhlig: Awww...how awful. Waiting is the worst. I hope you don't have to wait too much longer. But you do have a cute story :)

@CanadianMermaid: No, there never was a second ring! And I'm glad. I'm in love with this ring. My first choice was pretty, but this one is more ME! I'm glad he picked it!

Very cute story. I love that you told him- I'd feel guilty not telling him. The fact that you found the ring-- oh well. I think the greater deception would have been to not say anyting.

After my FH and I moved in together, I found two rings in his sock drawer. I thought they were his ex-wifes, so I cleaned them up, and prepared a Craigslist post to help him sell them. (I've helped him sell things in the past, so I knew he would appreciate the help.)

He was at work that day, so I sent him a text of "Hey, I found (ex wife's name here) rings, I cleaned them up, and I have a picture & post of them ready to go for Craigslist. Are you comfortable accepting XX dollars?

He said when he got the text, he started laughing. My return text from him- "I'll tell you about the rings when I get home."

I tabled the Craigslist ad.

When he got home, he told me the rings were his mother's wedding set. He said they meant a lot to him...so he couldn't sell them. Of course, I would never ask him to sell what is clearly a family heirloom.

I laughed at myself for a good time after that.

I was floored when he proposed to me, and gave me the rings! 

The best part- his mom said it made her happy to know I had her rings. That was incredibly sweet of her.

Tis' best to always talk to one's man. Good, bad, ugly, etc. Openess is the key to a long relationship!