- 5 years ago
I’m only kidding about the serial killer stuff but the rest is true.
I noticed my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years being protective of his cell phone and I had a gut instinct to check it. Found a sexually explicit message from a woman, then found a link to a hidden e-mail account. Turns out he had been replying (Not posting) to Craigslist ads for MLIF’s, and Transexuals. He also had an account on a dating website called Ashely Madison which hooks up married people to have affairs. He had sent nude photos of himself to various men and she-males.
I went through his browser history and he was also looking up pictures of trannies, websites like chickswithdicks.
I carefully read through his e-mails and it doesn’t appear that he met anyone in person, e-mails went back for two months. He would go back and forth then stopped responding. Same on Ashely Madison. No numbers or places and times were exchanged.
I confronted him about it, he confessed to everything and seemed to be honest. He claims that he had originally signed up for Ashely Madison after his ex asked for a divorce. He said that he felt single women did not want to date “separated” men. He kind of got hooked on the site, ended up meeting a woman and they had a sexual relationship for a few months. Then he broke it off, went onto Match.com (at this point he was divorced) met me.
The woman who texted him the sexually explicit message was this woman, he claims that she continued to contact him after they split hoping he wanted to restart their thing. He admitted he enjoyed the fact that she still wanted him, he sometimes would flirt back although he never met her again.
I called her and she confirmed what he said, she said he had not seen her in over two years. She seemed to still be crazy over him and I believe his story that is the one who has been running after him. Very sad that she doesn’t feel the same for her husband.
He said that for him, contacting people online and the risqueness of it got him off, that he doesn’t look at regular porn, magazines, nor flirts with anyone in person. For the most part this is true, he does not look at mags or watches porn (which I found odd) although he had told me earlier in our relationship that he looked up porn on the internet.
He also admitted that this had been going on though well before he met me. The Craigslist stuff ect. He said he never physically cheated on me, nor had the intention of meeting anyone.
Up until this point we have had a good relationship, I realize this sounds nuts, but I’m thinking of giving him a second chance.