(Closed) I found out my boyfriend is cyber cheating, might also be the Craigslist killer

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Snickers675:  its your relationship so go with your gut, but this wouldn’t fly with me

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you stay with him, are you okay with him continuing this behavior or would you want him to stop all of it immediately? Does he seem willing to give it all up if you ask him to?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Snickers675:  If you want to give him another chance go for it.

Me that would be a deal breaker, you aren’t married and you aren’t engaged. I’d move on.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Snickers675:  is he willing to stop? And let you check up on his net habits?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

What was his explanation for the transexual stuff? Is this a preference of his that you were already aware of (and okay with)? If not, I find that potentially as concerning as the Ashley Madison hookup woman.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

For me, no kids, no ring, serial cheater and liar- I would never trust him again, so I’d cut my losses and end it.

However, I really think a consensus of srangers isn’t going to make the decision for you one way or the other, but your reaction to them might. It’s similar to how when you flip a coin and it’s in the air you suddenly know what you want it to land on (or you know when you are disappointed by the outcome). If you are finding yourself defending him in your mind or justifying staying, you’ll know what you want.

I do think for there to be a future that you can really move on from, I would find some counselling for the two of you, though.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Snickers675:  Hold up!

Is this the guy who wouldn’t stop talking about his past sexual experiences and making you feel terrible because of that? If so, we have to look at his past behavior in your relationship.

Has he gotten over that. Has he actually stopped? Do you feel respected? Throw love out the window. Love is fickle. If you’re respected, he can love you, but if someone doesn’t respect you, the love will fade.

If you feel respected in this relationship, and you actually honestly believe he is going to stop this, then maybe things can work. But maybe, you might need to move on and find a new man. One who isn’t a diamond in the rough, and one who is less of a project.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just be friends with him, and continue to date other people.   But that’s just me.  It sounds like this is just going to cause problems down the road.   You can’t change someone, unfortunately.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I believe the problem with you and this guy is not that he cyber cheated on you, but that he is into men.

You don’t want to be with a man that’s gonna have issues with his sexuality for as long as he is with you. Help him and hep yourself. Get out of this relationship.

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