Post # 1
About a month ago me and my SO went to go look at rings so I could give him an idea what I liked. After that, he never mentioned it again. Not at all!! I brought it up a few times but he just seemed to get quiet and change the subject. I tried very hard not too worry about it and just trust that he would ask when he was ready. But the more I tried not too think about it, the more the world seeemed to want to remind me of it. I had all the annoying “when are you going to get engaged” questions thrown at me, I couldnt log onto fb without seeing that someone was engaged, and don’t even get me started on all the ring commercials. So basically, I broke down and had to talk to my SO. I told him I know he will propose when he is ready but him not saying anything about it and the waiting is driving me crazy.
This conversation basially resulted in him telling that me that he is going to propose to me before Christmas and the reason he was quiet about the ring was bc he already bought it. I was so surprised and was mad at myself for not just keeping my mouth shut. I kind of wanted it to be a surprise, but I asked for it.
After I got over being mad at myself for asking him his timeline, I got really excited. Christmas is coming up in just a few short weeks! Now it seems like it is all I think about!! I am having trouble sleeping bc I am so excited. I am constantly thinking about which day he will pop othe questions. Plus I don’t want to talk about this to anyone else because I want them to be surprised when it happens.
So thats why I am posting this on here. I need to get this out. Tell people who don’t know me. I want to just relax, stay calm and let it happen. But I am so excited, I have this energy with no where for it to go. I can barely concentrate on work! Or anything else for that matter!
Is anyone there in a simular situation? How are you handling it?
Post # 3
That is so exciting. Keep your nails looking good and try and relax! I know that is easier said than done, but it is coming soon 🙂
Post # 4
This is exciting! Hang in there. Can’t wait for the ring pics. 🙂
Post # 5
This happened to me. Don’t get upset if he doesn’t do it exactly when he said he would! He may just want it to actually be a surprise. I’d give him a couple months after when he said he was going to do it before you say anything else about it. I know if I had point-blank guessed the date, my SO probably would have changed the plan.
If you don’t have a wedding Pinterest, it might be a good time to start one! Just make sure you unlink it from your FB or make your boards secret so no one thinks you’re cray.
Post # 6
A similiar thing happened to me – back in April, FI had told me he would propose before his family vacation in July, and he didn’t do it until THREE days before vacation!!! I was dying the whole time..
The biggest piece of advice I can give you is to try really hard not to anticipate it and don’t get disappointed if you think that there’s a *perfect* time and he doesn’t do it. Now that he knows you are definitely anticipating it, he might try to throw you off a few times. Don’t get crabby or pouty about it, just enjoy your time with him!!! 🙂 Very exciting!!
(Oops, just looked up at Effie’s post, I guess we think alike!!) 🙂
Post # 7
I’m in a similar situation. We’ve been together for 6.5 years. SO gave a timeline earlier this summer by telling our close friends that we’d be engaged by the end of the year. Two months ago he took me looking at rings and said he needed to get my finger sized. About three weeks ago he went on a shady shopping trip with two of his close friends. (Shady because he doesn’t shop…ever!) And then he stopped mentioning anything about rings, weddings, honeymoon…nothing! I thought maybe, just MAYBE he had bought a ring!
Well, after doing laundry one day, I went to put his socks away and saw a receipt from a jewelry store in there!
Don’t judge me…but I looked at it…it was for an e-ring! lol
The wait is killing me, but I’ve vowed to keep my mouth shut (to him!) so I don’t unintentionally ruin anything he’s planning. I’m having a hard time concentrating on anything other than thinking about it too…
Hang in there, paint your nails, and pamper yourself…it’s coming! 🙂
Post # 8
Oh girl I’m right there with you. My ring is in the house and I know he proposing within the next month. He’s told me several times he will propose by the end of January.
He has a really hard time keeping secrets so I know he’s picked up the ring.. we picked out the setting and diamond together and he let it slip that he picked it up. He offered to show me a picture because he’s so excited but I refused because I want to keep something a surprise.
Sadly I have no real advice except for go get a manicure! 😉
Post # 9
@bbsoon2be: Thanks! My So offered to show me a pic of the ring as well. I said no bc I want to be surprised, but it was really hard to turn down a look at the ring.
Congrats to you as well!!
Post # 10
Oh, how exciting! Okay, here’s my advice. Keep yourself OCCUPIED. It shouldn’t be too hard with the approaching holiday.
Get to the gifts. Buy your gifts for everyone and elaborately wrap them. I mean like, wrap each one in a box and wrap it with a lovely bow that you hand tie. Or do brown paper and tie them with twine and slip a handcut snowflake under the twine on each one. Trust me, this will take forever and occupy several hours of your time.
Make gifts. Bake something. Knit something. Just decide on something that will take a day or two to accomplish. If you decide to bake cookies for everyone, you can spend a day baking and another day packaging them up.
Write personal notes in all of your Christmas cards. It’ll take forever.
Look at houses online and day dream.
Volunteer at a toy drive or as a bell ringer.
Basically, just keep yourself as busy as humanly possible. And the next fourteen days will simply fly by. 😉
Post # 11
@MissCountryGirl727: Thanks for the advice. I am kinda glad someone else is going through this as well. I think it would be hard to really understand how hard it is until you actually go through it yourself. I don’t judge you about looking at the receipt! I think it wise of you to keep quiet about it. I hope you have better luck trying not to think about it than me!
Post # 12
Thanks for the advice everyone!! Just posting this here really did make me calmer bc I could get it off my chest!
Post # 13
I know a proposal is coming before the end of the year and I am going CRAZY!! I completely understand. Its all I can do to keep it together. At least can be happy knowing it is finally coming very soon!! Better than not soon :). I just look at wedding stuff constantly! My joke is that by the time heproposes I will nearly have the enitre wedding planned lol. (just not booked!)
Cant wait to hear about your proposal!
Post # 14
keep calm and paint your nails! cant wait to hear about the proposal!
Post # 15
@artichokey: Thanks for all the advice on how to keep busy. I think those ideas will really work. Plus I love Chirstmas shopping, baking, wrapping…! Def appreciate the advice!!!
Post # 16
@sunshinebee: Your right! It is defiantly better to know its coming soon than not soon! That is very exciitng it is coming to you before the end of the year! Maybe some of the others bees advice will help you as well! Can’t wait to hear about your proposal!!