Post # 1
I went shopping this weekend, and I found the dress! I’m going to attach a picture of the front and back. I did a little editing to remove my face (just in case).
1) What type of bustle should I get? Did anyone have a similar style dress? Pictures please!
2) Also, just my mom and sister went shopping with me. Should I show my FMIL a picture? I’m afraid if I email her picks she will send them to her whole entire family, so maybe I’ll just show her a pick from my phone next time I see her. I would like to keep the dress a surprise just for fun. My fiance does not want to know anything about the dress, so I’m thinking maybe I shouldn’t tell the FMIL much or show her a picture at all just in case.
Post # 3
First of all, I think you look beautiful!! That dress looks like it was made for you!
Secondly, I think you should be okay to show your FMIL the pictures you shared with us, and maybe just gently remind her that “shhhh, it’s a secret!” so she isn’t temped to share the pics with anyone else. You also don’t have to send her pictures, but show her the dress in person, or show her the pictures in person, that way she doesn’t have anything tangible to pass on.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 4
The dress looks great on you! I think a french bustle would look good with it.
I think you should definitely show your FMIL a picture. If she’s a blabber, show her the pic in person (like PP said), but if she’s cool just send it to her.
Post # 5
Second, I don’t think you have to show your FMIL a picture if you don’t want to. You can just describe it to her and then say you are keeping the dress a surprise. That’s what I did.
Post # 6
Thanks. I am really excited. It isn’t want I was looking for initially but my mom and sister just loved it! I think a french bustle would be nice. Do you think they could follow the angles that the dress has so that you don’t even really notice it is bustled?
As far as the FMIL situation goes… I kind of don’t want to show her, but she is dying to be involved in everything about the wedding. I am glad I went shopping with just my mom and sister because I feel like it is a special thing for us to do. Plus almost all the dresses were to big for me so the clips were popping off and that would have been embarrassing around his mom.
I think I will just ask her whether or not she wants to see a picture or if she will wait. If she wants to see a picture, then I will show her in person because I don’t think she could resist showing it to her sisters. I want most people to see it for the first time walking down the aisle.
Post # 7
I think your idea of asking sounds perfect.
And I thought of french bustle because it’s so close to the lines of your dress, so yes- I think they could blend the bustle in.
Post # 8
Beautiful! I think a French bustle for sure. It will go with the other pick ups in the back!
I wouldn’t show her…I understand that you want to keep her involved, but you want as little people as possible to see it if you want everyone to be surprised!
Post # 9
I showed my fmil a picture of mine. I didnt give one to her to keep, but showed it to her and only her.
Post # 10
Update: So I decided to just show her a picture the next time I saw her in person. Then a couple days later my FSIL asked to see a picture. I told her I would try to bring one the next time I saw her. I am still debating on whether or not I’ll remember to bring a picture. I just think it is more fun for people to wait.
Now that I look at the pictures I am a little worried about looking short. I’m actually pretty tall (5’8”). I think with a dress that actually fits and good angles I will look good. This is not the best picture, but I posted it because you can see the details of the dress.
Next step… I need to find some shoes that aren’t too tall because I don’t want to be towering over my FI. He is 6 feet tall but slouches sometimes and 5’8” plus heels would put us pretty close together.
Thanks for all the good feedback!
Post # 11
i would definitely show FMIL a picture only in person! 😉
that dress is gorgeous on you!!! 😀