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Ok, so i found the ring... 2 and a half months ago!
I thought i could keep it a secret, but im really struggling with it...
Any advice?
KEEP IT TO YOURSELF - or if you MUST tell someone tell one of your close friends and swear them to secrecy. honestly dont ruin his surprise for you :)
Oh, I'm with Spaganya! Mum is the word! Do you have any special events coming up? A birthday? Anniversary?
I say keep it to yourself...i know its tough but he may get upset when he finds out he wont be able to surprise you. Is it worrying you that he has had if for that long and still hasnt given it to you?
Our 5 year anniversary is in June, and that is it...
I hate keeping secrets from him!!
The ring is absolutely BEAUTIFUL though!!!
Im not worried, we have been together a long time, we have a mortgage together... i am annoyed with myself that i found it - and also a little frustrated that it wasnt hidden very well...
I've read posts from bees who have been in this situation and told their boyfriend, only to regret it when he was disappointed about his surprise. I say keep it to yourself, even though I know if must be near impossible! If you've made it 2 months already, you can do it!
SHHHH!!! He would be so sad if he realized the surprise was spoiled.
I know it's frustrating that you found it BUT you still have no idea how he'll do it. :) :)
Keep it to yourself for sure.
My FI tried so hard to keep it a secret, so far as ditching the jewelery bag in the trunk of his car, so he could sneak the ring into the house. However, he forgot it was there... and a week later his lease expired, and I was helping him clean out the car to return it and I stumbled across the bag and I knew, and this panicked look crossed his face. So I was just like... seriously, didn't you get that necklace for me like a year ago? Haven't you ever heard of a trash can?
And he was just like... yeah, I'm a slob, and we pretended I didn't know anything for the next two weeks when the ring made it's appearance.
Definitely keep it to yourself for now! He's probably waiting for just the right moment/occasion. That, or he's (consciously or subconsciously) hoping you'll find it, so he can avoid the pressure build-up of having to ask you! Either way, I'd keep it quiet.
Another question, though, is... Will you tell him that you already got a sneak-peek after he proposes? Or will you take the secret to the grave? ;)
Oh no please ignore one of the 'Yes' votes above and convert it to a 'No' vote... I thought the poll was in answer to your title question: 'should I keep it a secret?' so I voted 'Yes' but then I saw that the poll is actually asking if you should tell him or not.... I really don't think you should
@SAPPHIRESUN
LOL..I love how quick you were to say that!
@MISS SYDNEY
Def keep it a secret. If it were me, I probably wouldn't even tell any of my closest friends either. If my SO heard that I found the e-ring I think he would be really devastated, and even worse, prolong the proposal even LONGER!
i totally would not tell. hopefully you spilling the beans here will help you keep quiet. i'm sure he would be really bummed that you found it early
NOOOO!! Keep it a secret! Let it be a surpise!!! I am totally with Wendy-I think guys take it very seriously when they get a ring to purpose! I think he would be sad he didn't get to ask you!
Just wondering..where was it that you found it.?.you weren't looking for it were you?! :)
Hmmm...seems that most everyone if not all that posted had said to keep it a secret. I would like to read a comment from someone that said tell him to see their reasoning behind it. Anyone dare to explain if you said yes?
@Wendy - i agree, i was curious to hear the other side... almost one third said tell him, but none of them have commented.
I just really hate keeping a secret from him...
@Miss Sydney
What do you mean that you hate keeping a secret from him? You don't think that this will ruin the trust issue with you both do you? And if you think about it, he's keeping the secret of purchasing that ring from you too!!! So you're both even now 
..I feel like its not really a secret you're keeping from him..think of it as a surpise he has for you..that you just happen to know about.. :)
either way I think its awesome that you are on your way to being an engaged women! Congrats on whatever you decide!! keep us posted!
ha ha - good point!! I am just worried im going to slip up!
Actually im buying him a Tag as an engagement gift and i have kept that a secret... i can keep this a secret!
Thanks everyone! I just have to suck it up!
I said Maybe b/c it depends on how long you can wait and if you think it's actually coming soon. If I were you, since you found it so long ago, I wouldn't tell him I found it but I would actually start on Mr. Bee's plan hardcore. To me, having it for so long means he isn't sure if/when he's going to do it and it's just as bad as still not having it. Actually this would make me super pissed and I would probably be mad at him now that I found it.
I would not tell him that you found the ring but maybe I would bring up the topic of getting married. You don't want him to know that you found it because he might think that you are a snoop, which isn't really a quality men admire. Oh shoot, I voted the wrong way on the poll. I looked at the question in the title as the question for the poll so I meant to say No!
I voted to keep it a secret but saw your request for explanation - some may have clicked yes b/c hte post title would say yes keep it a secret, then you switched the question around in the poll?
I was basically in your situation. I found the stone, way before my FI proposed. Then, I would check it compulsively to see if it was still there. Definitely do not tell your FI. If you must tell someone, tell a friend. A discrete friend!
Don't tell him, it might crush him (because he might feel like the surprise is ruined) and you don't want to do that!
I agree with those who voted to keep it a secret. For all you know, he could be planning something for, like, tomorrow night, and asking might ruin the surprise. But yeah, as hard as it is, I think it's better to keep it a secret. You'll find out soon, right?
How exciting but also painful----do.not.tell.him. I actually ran it by my FI and he flat out said, "Hell no." So, there you have it. I hope it comes sooner rather than later for you though. Good luck!
Lol @ SapphireSun, what quick thinking! How perfect!
ksnow - Ohh, yeah I am pretty sure that most of those "yes's" are just people who are answering "Do I keep it a secret?" rather than "Should I tell him?"
Good point @ MissAsB, men don't like to think that women are snoopy. And Miss Sydney, it sounds like you weren't even trying to find it, so you're not at fault for being a snoop anyway. Don't give yourself that reputation!
Congratulations on getting engaged soon! Yay!!
i wouldn't tell him. think of it this way: plenty of couples go ring shopping together and pick out/buy the ring but then the guy keeps it until he actually proposes. having the ring means nothing until he asks you. keep it a secret so that you can have a surprise proposal and it can go the way you dream of it.
Ok - you have all convinced me not to tell him!
Sorry about the confusion in the title/question.. whoops!
My parents are heading off soon for like 3 months or so and he was waiting for them to return from their last trip a few months ago, so hopefully he will propose before they go again! he he
I can stick it out!!
Thanks for the support and extremely wise words ladies and @CurlySue's FI gentlemen!
Def keep it a secret!!! A friend blew the secret that my SO was going to propose....and he was PISSED! And now I'm still waiting waiting waiting....don't blow his suprise. Let him do it on his terms. Men are so touchy about 'the ring'.
KEEP IT A SECRET!
he may have a special way he wants to do it...and it sounds like it if he still hasn't asked but has had the ring for so long
Definitely keep it a secret! And now I'm going to be on the lookout like crazy for your "I'm engaged!" post!
KEEP IT HUSH HUSH. sounds like he has something amazing planned :)
Tell the hive, tell your best friend, if you need to tell your mother... but do. not. tell. him.
Have you guys had the talk about this yet? I sent DH pictures of rings I liked....he was deployed and WANTED to know what I wanted.
I voted maybe, only because I know I would be bursting at the seams and probably couldn't keep my own trap shut! Haha! My boyfriend and I talk about everything, nothing is off the table, so I would probably feel guilt that I found it and spill the beans. Theoretically though, I side with just about everyone else that has commented: If you don't think you can keep it a secret that you know his secret and have the strength not to blab it (like I most certainly would!), tell a friend or family member!
And congratulations on your almost engagement!!!
I wouldnt say anthing. I found the receipt for my engagement ring-I never told him I found it- (boys just arent alwasy great hiders lol) he also slipped up one night after a few glasses of wine and very sweetly telling me how much he loved me that he may have purchased something (he didnt remember this later lol). HOWEVER, although it was loud and clear he had bought the ring he TOTALLY shocked me with his proposal and I really didnt see it coming (I mean mostly lol). It was the most amazing proposal(a 3 hr scavenger hunt with boxs all around the city with notes from him leading me to the next destination where we finally ended at a beautiful campus chapel we love with roses, candles and him in a suit proposing....all while my sister drove me to each location and his friend filmed the entire thing!) I know have a professional edited video of the proposal to boot! It was amazing....sooo I would say DONT SAY A THING!! He may still be able to suprise you with it:)
Oh i see. You found the ring IN THE HOUSE?
I thought you found the ring you wanted, like, online or something. WOw i was confused...as such my first post probably makes ZERO sense.
Keep it a secret! :)
Like some of the other bees have said, he may be really disappointed if he knows you found it.
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