Post # 1
My full name is Sarah Elizabeth, but I’ve been called “Beth” since birth. I’ve never gone by Sarah except in formal settings like the doctor’s office and I always correct them to call me Beth. It’s all I’ve ever known myself as, so I prefer it!! So let’s say my maiden name is Smith, and my fiance’s last name is Johnson. Should I just change my name to “Beth Smith Johnson” so that my preferred name is now my first name? Is that too weird to completely drop the Sarah since it’s on my diplomas and what not?
I certainly don’t want to drop the middle name Elizabeth because “Beth” comes from it! And I feel that having 4 total (Sarah Elizabeth Smith Johnson) is too much! Suggestions? Has anyone else had a similar situation?? Thanks!!
Post # 3
what about Elizabeth Smith Johnson?
Post # 4
@se0620: I’m in the same boat except that my married name will be the 5th! I have my first formal name, my second name everyone knows me by, then my mum’s maiden name & dad’s last name…then will add FI’s..
It will sure be a heck of a name, but to me, dropping any of the name would be like losing part of my identity. Does your first name have any special meaning?
Post # 5
What would your parents say?
IMO, if you are comfortable with dropping the Sarah, I think it makes sense.
I’m a Sara (no h) Elizabeth as well, and dropped the Elizabeth. I now walk around with my firstname-maidenname-ex’slastname. Of course, when I divorced 20 years ago with a 1 YO son, I was urged to keep the last name so that mine would match my son’s. After FI and I get married, I will take his lastname and will be Sara-maidenname-newlastname.
Post # 6
So depending on the state you might have to get a court order to change your first name- just something to consider. Have you considered dropping your maiden name altogether and just going by Sarah Elizabeth Johnson? I know not everyone is comfortable with that idea, but it is an option if you’re ok with it. I agree you should definitely keep Elizabeth in some fashion.
Post # 7
@future mrs Q: This exactly. You usually have to get a special court order to change your first name, and it can be a lengthy process. So, if you want to do that, just be prepared for that. Othwerwise, decide what feels best and go for it!
Post # 8
“And I feel that having 4 total (Sarah Elizabeth Smith Johnson) is too much! “
Welp, I just did four names as of today! You’ll probably very rarely have to write them all out, honestly. Initials can always be subbed when you don’t want to write them out. I like having many options I guess!
Post # 9
I actually worked with a woman who did exactly what you’re proposing — she dropped her given first name, which she never used and didn’t like; made her very cool, very professional sounding middle name her new first name; took her maiden name as her new middle name; and took her husband’s last name. I think it sounds like a viable solution for you.
I have a friend who kept all four of her names, and she told me how much she regrets doing so. Computer systems for her job (with the Federal government no less) and her physicians’ offices, etc. continue to have her name wrong, incorrectly hyphenating her last name, etc.
Post # 10
Thanks ladies for the opinions! I think my preference would be to drop the Sarah, but I guess I’ll just have to look into my state’s (NC) policy/procedure for that. If it involves a lengthy process then I guess I’ll have to decide between all 4 names or dropping maiden name!