Post # 1
I had sent out Save the Dates via FB last April to everyone on my guest list who uses FB. As I was looking through the responses today, I realized I accidentally sent one to the wrong “Matt” in the family (we have like 3 people named Matt). The one I sent it to is lovely, but I have seen him exactly ONCE in the past 25 years. He didn’t respond that he was coming, so do I just not send him an invite? He lives out of state, so I’m thinking he wouldn’t come anyway so maybe I just send an invite and hope he declines? Ugh!!!
Post # 3
Ugh that sucks, but you really do have to send him an invite. Hopefully he won’t come but you definitely should send it. Sorry this happened, so frustrating.
Post # 4
Yep, gotta send him an invite. Only one more person so won’t hurt the budget too much right if he does decide to come.
Post # 5
I agree with PP. I think if he barely knows you, he won’t mind declining.
Post # 6
Haha, oops! I actually did nearly the EXACT same thing. I sent a mass FB message to my fraternity brothers (it was a co-ed fraternity) asking for addresses and accidently send the message to the wrong “Todd.” Instead of sending it to my good friend, I sent it to an old co-worker who I haven’t talked to over 4 years and only ever saw at work (we never hung out outside of work). Unfortunately for me, the “wrong Todd” did respond and now I have no idea what to do. I don’t want to be rude, but I’m not inviting the old work crew and we aren’t really friends… The whole situation is just super awkward.
I don’t really have any advice because I’m in the same position and don’t really know what to do – I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone!
Post # 7
@RunsWithBears: Thanks, this makes me feel better! If he did come, it wouldn’t b such a big deal, I’m just hoping we have enough declines to squeeze him in!
Post # 8
No way, you don’t HAVE to do it. Especially if you are not close and haven’t been in touch. I know its bad and I’ll get killed here. But I wouldn’t send one, if he asks, just say it must have been lost in the mail and give him the details.
Post # 9
Going against the trend. You don’t HAVE to invite anyone. I mean, you haven’t seen him more than once in 25 years, he’s NOT going to be chasing up an invite.
Post # 10
I can see it from both ways. If I didn’t see someone in over 25 years and got a facebook save the date and not an invite, I wouldn’t be offended. On the other hand, I would be delighted that the individual “thought” of me. Good luck.
Post # 11
If I haven’t seen someone in even 5 years, I wouldn’t expect an invite to their wedding, unless of course we were in touch and just not physically seeing each other.
He didn’t respond, so either ignore it and don’t send the invite, or shoot him a msg and apologize for sending it to the wrong Ted or whomever.
Also, he might be relieved he’s not actually invited. I hate getting invites from people I haven’t seen in a while. I feel like it’s awkward and I either have to show up or send a gift. (It’s just the rule here in NY that you send a gift if you’re invited, not sure if it’s the same elsewhere).
Post # 12
Well I decided to invite him and his girlfriend anyway, and I’m guessing they won’t come because she is a teacher and they both live out of state. If they do come, it will be nice to see them, they are a very nice couple.