Post # 1
I’m having a serious dilemma and I wanted to get some unbias opinions! I’ve been having some hard days over the last few month dealing with various things after the passing of my father not to mention the pain I feel trying to plan a wedding without him. Everything has started to pile up and I’m pretty much at my breaking point, if not past it. This morning I even started to think maybe I want to forfeit the cost of the things I have paid for when it comes to the wedding and elope….which I know I would probably regret in the end.
A friend of mine has invited me to go to Vegas on the 18th of this month and all I would have to pay for is my plane ticket. The problem is, although I’ve got the money, I’ve been stressing out about all the I have to pay for month now and I keep going back and forth about whatever or not to let myself have this vacation. I’m paying double mortgage until my dad’s place sells (he was single and I’m an only child), my relationship with my mom is hanging on by the thinnest lil thread in the world and my Fiance and I are now having to look at buying a new washer/dryer and quite possibly a new refrigerator.
Again, we have the money, I just feel like my going on vacation could be a little frowned upon but the short fuse that I’ve had probably is too. ha. I’ve asked my FI what he thinks I should do but he just wants me to be happy. HELP!
Post # 3
i think you should go, sounds like you need the vacation! as long as you can afford it, go for it 🙂
Post # 4
Oops, I voted wrong. I meant to vote Go, not Stay! It sounds like you need a vacation! You have the money, and you’ve been under a lot of stress. Go, relax, and have a great time!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t go. You need to save the money in case the house doesn’t sell and you need to keep paying the mortgage for longer than you expect.
Post # 6
I think you should go. It sounds like you need the vacation horribly, and you’ll be able to step away from reality and hopefully relax. The only thing is, if you do go, you cant feel guilty during the trip or after, guilt will just add to the mix. GO GO GO!!!
Post # 7
Think of it as an investment in your and your family’s collective sanity. Go.
Post # 8
I voted Go, but with a few caveats:
– When you say you have the money— do you mean you have the money for the plane ticket but if you buy the plane ticket it may cause financial problems in the future? Or do you mean you really have more than enough money for everything but it just seems frivolous to spend on vacation when you’re spending on so many other things? If there is a chance this is going to cause a financial hardship in a few months w/ the mortgage or having to buy new appliances, that is just going to cause MORE stress so I say stay. But if you know you can definitely afford everything and you’re just having spending-money guilt (i do! i always make my husband click the “buy” button when we book vacations haha) I say GO.
– What does your husband say? If he doesn’t want you to go/it might cause stress there I say don’t go because you need his full support right now. But if he is okay or encouraging you to go, I say GO.
You need to relax and have some fun right now 🙂
Post # 9
Wow, I’m so thankful for all of your input!
@CorgiTales: That’s a good question! It’s definitely that I’m a tight wad and a plane tickets seems like something that should be the last thing on my mind! So spending guilt, yes! My Fiance just says he understands that I may need something fresh to get me out of the rut I’ve been in and its totally up to me.
I failed to mention that I’m turning 30 on the 11th and I’m not handling that very well either! haha
Post # 10
I say go and enjoy yourself.. Who cares what others think.. You really need to take care of you and your feelings as well especially after a death so significant to you! I just recommend that when you do go do not spend over a set amount that is acceptable for you to still be able to get by with your other obligations
Post # 11
@Soon2B_MrsS: Yea I would totally go then. You sound like me! It’s never that we don’t have the money for ______ (<– insert thing i want/want to do) its that I’m like welllll do I want to take that out of savings when it isn’t NECESSARY? and then mostly I don’t because I’m cheap. But sometimes you just need to let loose. Sounds like a fun 30th birthday trip!
Post # 13
i said go but it depends how much money you have and how much it costs and if you’ll physically be able to pay for the other stuff. A vacation sounds amazing! I need one myself!
Post # 14
@Jacqui90: +1 million. you need this vacation.
Post # 15
Go! Sounds like you could use a vacation and it won’t cause any sort of financial hardship!
Post # 16
Okie dokie, ladies. I got my ticket…Vegas here I come!