Post # 1
Here is the situation. I have a honeymoon registry. One of FI’s guests sent her RSVP that she was declining attendance. We are having a destination wedding, that’s why we sent our invitations so early…and we were expecting lots of declines. Then this person graciously bought us something off our honeymoon registry! But its still 5 months to go until our wedding/honeymoon.
Do I send the Thank You note now? (I already have them as they came matching with my invitations). Or do I wait until after the wedding/honeymoon to thank her formally? Since the gift is a contribution to our honeymoon – we technically won’t be “using” or “getting” her gift until the honeymoon.
My idea is to reply to her declined RSVP – she did it through our website and I write back to everyone who responds through there. And through this reply, I will also thank her for the gift. Then AFTER the wedding, I will send the handwritten formal thank you (along with a mini pro pic).
Any other ideas/suggestions on what to do? or is my plan okay?
Post # 3
you should send thank yous as soon as you receive the gift. it will make things much easier on you post-wedding, too, since you’ll have a few left to do! i would actually respond to her rsvp after the wedding if you want to send a pic…sort of a second thank you.
Post # 4
i personally think it’s best to send all thank you notes immediately. it will be easier for you and your FI, and the giver will know that you “received” the gift that she so thoughtfully sent.
Post # 5
Immediately! And how nice that you got an early gift!
Post # 6
I would send a written thank you note as soon as possible. Make sure to take a picture (or 2) doing the activity/enjoying what was bought off the honeymoon registry. I would send an email with the honeymoon pictures once you get home as another thank you.
Post # 7
You should send the written thank-you as soon as you get a gift.
Post # 8
I wanted to include thank you’s for coming to the wedding so I’m waiting until after the wedding to send all thank you’s. However, we received one gift pretty early and it was quite big from my sister’s in-laws. So I called my sister’s MIL personally and thanked her. I said it wasn’t my formal thank you but that I wanted her to know we had received it and how grateful I was. Once we get within a month of the wedding, I won’t call personally, I will just wait until after the wedding.
I did this because for a wedding last year my FI and I received an invitation about 3 months ahead. We right away RSVP’d and ordered the gift online. For 3.5 months I had no idea if they had even received it. I decided right there that I would send out thank you’s right away but like I said, I wanted to include mention of attending the wedding.
Post # 9
@Talishazwi: the guest i am referring to RSVP’d that she is not attending the wedding. so that is not an issue for me, i can’t thank her for attending.
i think now after hearing the responses, i might send formal thank you now and when we put pictures online after the wedding, send a link to everyone.
Post # 10
I’d send it now so she knows you received it. You could always send her another note after the honeymoon. 🙂
Post # 11
@dynamic_duo:Oh yeah, duh! We are also doing a honeymoon registry and I was planning on including pictures of us doing the activity they helped us go on. In this case, I would probably send it now. 🙂 That’s too long to wait and then I would send a picture in email after the honeymoon.
Post # 12
Send her the thank you note asap, but you can also send her a little note with the picture after the wedding.