(Closed) I got a verbal thank you and that’s fine with me! Do I tell them?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you tell someone a written thank you won't be necessary?
    Sure! : (8 votes)
    21 %
    No, let them fulfill their duty : (23 votes)
    61 %
    Indifferent : (7 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 5
    1415 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m not quite sure I understand. So they would say, “Thanks so much for your gift!” And you’d say, “Oh you’re welcome. And don’t bother sending us a thank you card, since you just fulfilled your obligation verbally!” I wouldn’t say anything, just let them send the card. When they’re already sending several dozen, one more won’t make a significant difference. 

    Post # 6
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If they want to send you a written one you should just let them; it should be their decision

    Post # 8
    14498 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We went to a few weddings this summer of people that I see regularly and I told them not to waste the stamp that their verbal was great with me.  I know that those couple were also struggling with money and a few with family or medical issues and I just wanted them to save those few pennies and the time that could go to other things.

    Post # 10
    11343 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I would not tell them this. I would allow them to write the note.  Not only would a member of the couple have the pleasure of writing the note, but also you will have the pleasure of receiving it.  Although it was challenging to find the time to write all of the thank you notes from our wedding as I was commuting between two homes in two states each week for awhile during the first year of my marriage, I was really excited to write them. To me, I was not only fulfilling an etiquette requirement but also enjoying a privelege to which I actually had looked forward as a new bride. After all, I had paid for those gorgeous, engraved, personalized notes, and I really wanted to use them! 🙂

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