Post # 1
Just out of curiosity, if you got a verbal thank you for a wedding gift you gave, would you let them know a handwritten note wasn’t necessary?
I got a verbal thank you from a couple we see ALL the time. They were very appreciative, as they always have been. I considered letting them know to save their hand cramps for someone else, and a written thank you wasn’t necessary. However, I figured I would consult the pro’s first!
What do you think?
Post # 3
I keep posting in Beehive today!
Can this be moved to Etiquette? Thanks!
Post # 5
I’m not quite sure I understand. So they would say, “Thanks so much for your gift!” And you’d say, “Oh you’re welcome. And don’t bother sending us a thank you card, since you just fulfilled your obligation verbally!” I wouldn’t say anything, just let them send the card. When they’re already sending several dozen, one more won’t make a significant difference.
Post # 6
If they want to send you a written one you should just let them; it should be their decision
Post # 7
Thanks for the votes!! I am SO glad I came here first. I am very much a people pleaser so that part of me wanted to “help them out”. But it’s just silly!
Post # 8
We went to a few weddings this summer of people that I see regularly and I told them not to waste the stamp that their verbal was great with me. I know that those couple were also struggling with money and a few with family or medical issues and I just wanted them to save those few pennies and the time that could go to other things.
Post # 10
I would not tell them this. I would allow them to write the note. Not only would a member of the couple have the pleasure of writing the note, but also you will have the pleasure of receiving it. Although it was challenging to find the time to write all of the thank you notes from our wedding as I was commuting between two homes in two states each week for awhile during the first year of my marriage, I was really excited to write them. To me, I was not only fulfilling an etiquette requirement but also enjoying a privelege to which I actually had looked forward as a new bride. After all, I had paid for those gorgeous, engraved, personalized notes, and I really wanted to use them! 🙂
Post # 11
Good point! AND that reminds me to start looking at Thank You card stationery! So I totally get how it can be a satisfying thing to do on different levels.