Post # 1
haha! funny title 😀
hello ladies! so..i have a kind of weird situation. Every since i was little i never wanted to get married and def never wanted a wedding per say.
even though i have met the love of my life and i cant wait to be his wife, i still cannot picture myself getting married at all! i cant picture myself walking down the aisle, i cant picture muself in a dress and veil, i cannot picture myself saying vows, and so on..
i can picture being married and having kids and all that..it is just the day of i cant picture myself in. ha…weird weird feeling. also, i HATE the way i photograph and i literally get nauseous thinking about my wedding day photos..is this crazy?
does anyone else feel the same way?
Post # 3
I do! Well, I’m hoping to practice with the photographer so I don’t look too terrible (engagement photos), but I really can’t picture myself walking down the aisle AT ALL. I can picture the reception, but not the actual wedding itself.
I actually haven’t had much interest in the ceremony part. I’m pretty much leaving it up to FI. Still can’t figure out why I’m so detached from that part of the experience though.
Post # 4
I dont think this is crazy! Do you think that a small ceremony would be better for you? Maybe at city hall or just with an officiant and parents/siblings? You can wear what you want and just have a low-key dinner after. You’ll be married without all the hoopla that you can’t picture yourself doing.
Post # 5
i understand what you’re talking about! i can picture the past, present, and future just fine. but having a very hard time connecting “here comes the bride” music, all eyes on me to me actually walking down the aisle, saying vows, etc!
Post # 6
Maybe eloping would be a thought. Have just immediate family?
Post # 7
well i am glad to hear i am not the only one! i tried to talk FI into just a civil ceremony, very immediate family thing but he would not have it. he wants EVERYONE to be there. ugh..i have really been dreding it..i know i know..it sounds awful. but i have gotten better, now that i have my dress and i think i will look good i feel more confident but still…i just get this sick to my stomach feeling. it just is so not me..the whole wedding thing…hehe
this site has really helped….
aconfusedbride and kartz-are you having a big wedding?
Post # 8
I felt the same way, and FI wants the princess wedding (and ME to plan it)…
But, I love him and want to make him happy so I gave in. As I got more in depth with planning, it’s become more fun. Oh don’t get me wrong – the people around us stress me out beyond belief – but coordinating, shopping, making decisions – FUN! I think I could do this for a living.
I hope you start feeling better about it! Your wedding day will be your day, so make it the way you want! 🙂
Post # 9
oh it is definitly fun! i look the planning and stuff. i just cant picture the “cheesy” stuff. hehe…
i just cant picture walking down the aisle and saying vows and stuff..
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas
I hear ya about being worried about the photos – I have a tendency to not stick my chin out and end up with a funny double-chin in photos taken from the side. But I also don’t want to be thinking about my chin the whole time!
Post # 11
nachos–ahaha, i do the same thing. my sister does the opposite, she sticks it out too much and it makes her look like she has a freaky neck. 😀 are you getting married this month!? how exciting! 😀
Post # 12
i also didn’t want the big wedding, probably for different reasons (hate being the center of attention to the point where i get crazy anxiety) and my husband wanted a big wedding with all friends and family there, so we compromised. we had a small ceremony with 30 people and then a bigger reception. we also didn’t make our wedding very weddingy. i didn’t wear a big white dress, just a short dress. we didn’t dance, have the normal traditions of bouquet toss, cake cutting, etc. it was just a nice dinner.
i wouldn’t worry too much about the photos. they take a million so they can get good ones, and they tell you how to pose so it looks good. i was also kind of terrified about that because i don’t know what to do in front of a camera, but our photographer gave us good direction when it was posed photos.
Post # 13
thanks artbee-that helped me feel better about the photos 😀
we have an amazing photographer 😀
Post # 14
I was dreading walking down the aisle and being stared at and really couldn’t imagine it either….and the day of I was SO nervous that I couldn’t eat, couldn’t drink, etc. And even as I was at the door about to walk in I thought I’d pass out or be sick from nerves, but in actuality it really wasn’t that bad. Walking down the aisle I focused on my fiance rather than the people in the aisles (though I have to admit I noticed some of my friends were on fi’s side, lol), and once I was up in front of everyone despite the fact I knew they were there I really didn’t notice them. I had so many people say that to me and really didn’t believe them, but they were right. And while it felt a little weird to be reciting vows, etc. it really was a special moment.
Post # 15
I keep getting nervous about walking down the aisle with all eyes on me! I can just picture myself tripping or freaking out because I’m not good in front of people. I worry about the pictures too because of course I have certain angles of my face I like better than others! lol I think a lot of brides go through this just try to take a deep breath and relax. 🙂
Post # 16
I thought I was alone on this! I’m glad to see I am not.