(Closed) i got a weird feeling…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I do! Well, I’m hoping to practice with the photographer so I don’t look too terrible (engagement photos), but I really can’t picture myself walking down the aisle AT ALL. I can picture the reception, but not the actual wedding itself.

I actually haven’t had much interest in the ceremony part. I’m pretty much leaving it up to FI. Still can’t figure out why I’m so detached from that part of the experience though.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I dont think this is crazy!  Do you think that a small ceremony would be better for you?  Maybe at city hall or just with an officiant and parents/siblings?  You can wear what you want and just have a low-key dinner after.  You’ll be married without all the hoopla that you can’t picture yourself doing.

Post # 5
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Newbee

i understand what you’re talking about! i can picture the past, present, and future just fine. but having a very hard time connecting “here comes the bride” music, all eyes on me to me actually walking down the aisle, saying vows, etc!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe eloping would be a thought.  Have just immediate family?

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I felt the same way, and FI wants the princess wedding (and ME to plan it)…

But, I love him and want to make him happy so I gave in. As I got more in depth with planning, it’s become more fun. Oh don’t get me wrong – the people around us stress me out beyond belief – but coordinating, shopping, making decisions – FUN! I think I could do this for a living.

I hope you start feeling better about it! Your wedding day will be your day, so make it the way you want! πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas

I hear ya about being worried about the photos – I have a tendency to not stick my chin out and end up with a funny double-chin in photos taken from the side. But I also don’t want to be thinking about my chin the whole time!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i also didn’t want the big wedding, probably for different reasons (hate being the center of attention to the point where i get crazy anxiety) and my husband wanted a big wedding with all friends and family there, so we compromised. we had a small ceremony with 30 people and then a bigger reception. we also didn’t make our wedding very weddingy. i didn’t wear a big white dress, just a short dress. we didn’t dance, have the normal traditions of bouquet toss, cake cutting, etc. it was just a nice dinner.

i wouldn’t worry too much about the photos. they take a million so they can get good ones, and they tell you how to pose so it looks good. i was also kind of terrified about that because i don’t know what to do in front of a camera, but our photographer gave us good direction when it was posed photos.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I was dreading walking down the aisle and being stared at and really couldn’t imagine it either….and the day of I was SO nervous that I couldn’t eat, couldn’t drink, etc.  And even as I was at the door about to walk in I thought I’d pass out or be sick from nerves, but in actuality it really wasn’t that bad.  Walking down the aisle I focused on my fiance rather than the people in the aisles (though I have to admit I noticed some of my friends were on fi’s side, lol), and once I was up in front of everyone despite the fact I knew they were there I really didn’t notice them.  I had so many people say that to me and really didn’t believe them, but they were right.  And while it felt a little weird to be reciting vows, etc. it really was a special moment. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I keep getting nervous about walking down the aisle with all eyes on me! I can just picture myself tripping or freaking out because I’m not good in front of people. I worry about the pictures too because of course I have certain angles of my face I like better than others! lol I think a lot of brides go through this just try to take a deep breath and relax. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I thought I was alone on this!  I’m glad to see I am not.

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