- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
A little background: My family is muslim, and middleastern. I am an agnostic muslim if there ever was such a thing, and my FI’s family is a mix of german/italian and are predominately Christian. My FI and I have no problem with each other’s faith, seeing as both of us are not really that religious, but my family has raised some objections about us to marrying, mostly because they want their future imaginary grandchildren to be raised muslim, which we have decided that we will do to a certain extent, if and when, we have children.
All that aside, his immediate family has been really warm and accepting of me, and our relationship. Until I met his cousin. I met her for the first time at her engagement party, in which she invited both FI and I. She was friendly, courteous enough, but behind my back, she started asking FI questions about my ethnicity, seeing as I am clearly not white, what religion I follow,( questions that I don’t think are necessary for her to even be asking, at her engagement party nonetheless). When FI politely informed her I was middle eastern and muslim, she looked at him in surprise, and blurted out, ” So your marrying the enemy?’.
FI, of course, got angry that she would say such a thing, and told her she was being ignorant and prejudiced and uninformed. He’s a marine and has been deployed to Afghanistan recently, so that upset him even more that she would say such a thing about me, when he knows firsthand what goes on over there.
I’m just so upset hearing about this conversation. Its absolutely the most prejudiced thing anyone has ever said about me, to my face or behind my back. I do not want to attend this girl’s wedding to which we are also invited, and there’s no way I want to invite her to mine. Problem is, his family is tight-knit, so if I don’t invite her, there will be talk. But I don’t really care at this point who I upset by not inviting her. I can’t believe in 2012, these type of conversations still come up.