(Closed) I got invited to a “Black Tie Preferred” wedding. What to wear?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I went to a “black tie preferred” wedding once, and was one of only two guests in a short dress.  I was not close to the couple – I went as someone’s date.  There were about 50 guests in total, and I felt out of place.  I had a long formal dress ready to go, but changed my mind at the last minute.  I always wished I had gone for the longer dress.

Good luck!  There are lots of summer sales on right now – it’s probably a good time to pick something up.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Black tie = very formal = longer dress is preferred. Good luck finding one!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would also go with a longer one. I bet you can find tons of cute stuff on sale right about now.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree that you should wear a long dress.  Try Nordstrom… they’re having their Anniversary sale now.  Also, Macy’s seems to ALWAYS have some sort of “one day sale.”  I’ve found great dresses at both stores for very reasonable prices.  Good luck! 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It depends on what your date wears.  Are you going with your FI?  For a Black Tie event, if the man wears a suit, his date should wear a cocktail length dress.  If the man wears a tux, then the woman definitely should wear a floor length dress. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think that it means that the would like you to wear a longer dress. There is a great article on this topic on TheKnot if you search for it!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

Is the wedding in California? My good friend went to a Black Tie in CA 2 years ago and wore a short dress, but a nice short dress and a lot of the girls were in short dresses. I think it depends on the time of year and were the wedding is taking place.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would say go for the long formal gown for a black tie preferred wedding. Yes, Nordstrom has some beautiful long dresses that are AMAZING! Definitely check them out.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Long dress, have fun shopping!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I agree with the long dress, especially if your FI is in a tux! If you DO go with a short one, make sure it is super dressy (not a j crew-like sundress or cottony material). I think if you can’t find a long dress, then a super dressy (think black or glittery) short dress could work as well.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Black tie means floor length, but nowadays any dress with ’embellishment’ works. I would never wear afloor length gown if I was a wedding guest b/c I am short and they look strange on me. Wear a nice beaded cocktail gown or a more formal tea length.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I love dressing up, but gosh what a burden on guests. Sadly, I think a long dress would be better, mainly because it’s always better to be over dressed than under dressed. But if you really don’t want to spend the money or if you don’t feel like shopping, I’d say a dressed up black cocktail dress would be fine.

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