- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I apologize in advance if this post ends up being long.
Before I got married I was always hanging out with my girlfriends. There is a group of about 7 or 8 of us. We would go out every week or every other week for dinner or just drinks. The wedding came, everyone had fun from what I could tell. I went on my honeymoon, came back and sent everyone a message to meet up. Only 2 of the girls actually met up with me.
Then the holidays came and we all got together for our annual holiday parties. Thigs were fine but deep down I was sad for not seeing them sooner. Out of the group I am really close with two of them-they were in my wedding party.
Fast forward to end of Dec. One of the girls has a skiing weekend for her birthday and in Feb my good friend goes away to a casino for a weekend to celebrate her 30th. I didnt go because I really could not afford it. If I would have went to both celebrations-it would have cost me over $700. But I did tell my close friend that I would like to take her out to dinner. Which I did. I took her out and bought her a gift.
Since then there have been a few events but conincidentally it just happens to fall on the same weekend that I have family events to go to. Fast forward to now-I was able to go to a BBQ recently and saw most of the girls. It felt so awkward. I felt like I had just met them-no one cared that I was there. No one tried talking to me-I had to involve myself in the conversation. No one asked how I was. It was just “hey” I made an effort to talk with them, ask them about how they are doing, work, one of them got engaged recently and I congratulated her.
In btwn all this I have texted the girls and said we should meet up one night for drinks but no one responds to my messages.
The one friend I am really upset about is the one who I used to speak to everyday. We went from talking everyday to maybe texting once every 2 weeks. DH knows whats going on but says to me “would you rather have fake friends or none at all?”
DH says they are fake bc when I got engaged they could care less. Especially the two that were in my wedding party. They showed no excitement whatsoever. Which was hurtful but I didnt make a big deal about it bc this was my time to be happy and I wouldnt let anyone ruin that for me.
Last night I realized that the girl who is my bestfriend out of all them is no longer my bestfriend. There was something that transpired in the conversation that made me realize this. In short-there is nothing that we dont tell eachother and last night she told me something and I pretended not to know anything bc I wanted to see what she was going to say to test if she is going to lie to me. And she did.
So I am in a weird place because I love my DH and I am so happy to just go to work, come home, have a nice dinner with him..enjoy our weekends and visit our families. I can never get bored of that. But once in awhile I would like to know that I can go out with girlfriends and I dont have that anymore. Im just sad. I tried to keep in touch but what do I do when I am ignored? I dont want to seem desperate.