Post # 1
So I was at a party this weekend and I ran into one of my SO’s friend. She saw my ring and the first thing she asks is “Is it real?”
Now I don’t know if it was the second glass of wine or what, but I replied with a “YES OF COURSE.”
My ring is CZ. I don’t know what came over me. I’ve never tried to pass my ring off as a diamond. I never planned to. In fact, my ring is just a promise ring. The engagement i’ve picked out is a moissanite.
I’m feeling really guilty about lying. How do you bees deal with rude people who straight up ask “Is it real?”
Post # 3
Well, it was kind of rude of her to ask in the first place so I wouldn’t feel too bad about it. In this case, two wrongs does actually make a right.
Post # 4
@Peaceoutboyscout: Of course, it is a real CZ! You left out the CZ part 😉 People who ask such questions don’t even deserve a decent answer.
Post # 5
@Peaceoutboyscout: How rude. If someone is rude enough to ask, that’s exactly what you should say.
Post # 6
My ring is a real diamond, but the question is still tacky. If you tell someone your ring is not a diamond or other natural stone (thus educating them on stones) then you and your FI will br judged harshly. What is the purpise of the question? Ugh! It’s a gift. Do we really know what we are wearing??
Post # 7
@Peaceoutboyscout: Well, that’s a potential awkward situation.
Some would say you didn’t lie because your ring, in fact, is real.
Others would say you did lie because the unspoken/assumed intent of “real” is “diamond”.
At the end of the day, it depends on how you define “real”. Personally, I’ve never gone around intentionally misleading others about my jewellery choices, but who cares if I did? It’s no one’s business but mine and my conscience.
If you feel you need to make the correction, do so. If not, let it slide and (if you wish) commit to yourself that you’ll be upfront in the future. Or, don’t and rock your real CZ and come up with a good quip to shut down stupid questions like that in the future.
Post # 8
@Peaceoutboyscout: in fairness she didn’t ask is that a real diamond, it was insinuated. So you didn’t LIE, it’s a real ring 😉 people shouldn’t be so darn rude
Post # 9
I had a sales girl at the mall ask me all about my ring, where FI got it etc, and she did ask if it was real. I have a moissy, and I said it was real. I mean, its a real stone… But I get your feelings about not wantint to lie. If a close friend/relative asks, I would definitely tell them its a moissy. I felt a little bad because the girl looked young and maybe was shopping for rings with her BF. Had she approached me differently, I would have told her where my ring was from.
Post # 10
Ah – don’t you worry. It IS a real ring right? She had the manners of an earthworm, while you did absolutely nothing wrong.
Post # 11
@spezia: I was honestly shocked. I would never have the guts to straight up ask some one if their ring was “real”
@melonseeds: LOL very true. It IS a real CZ, and a rather nice one if I do say so myself!
@bunny_foo_foo: I really think some people just don’t realize it’s a rude question. SIGHHHHHHH
@CurlyCue: Right?! A ring is a ring is a ring no matter what it is made of!
@cdncinnamongirl: You’re right. I guess I just buckled under the pressure of possibly being judged. I love my CZ!
@Sparkidoodle: lol I guess if we’re looking for technical loop holes…. WOO HOO clear conscience!
Post # 12
Why is asking if it’s real considered rude? With so many other diamond-like stones out there in rings, it’s a genuine question. Maybe she noticed something about it and was curious.
Post # 13
@Peaceoutboyscout: I wouldn’t feel too bad about it, she should have never asked that question. You were just caught offguard and it probably would have been more awkward for you to explain it was a CZ and promise ring.
Post # 14
Lol, good on you !!
You’ve made some “traditional” Etiquette types (myself included) proud… because
(a) She was beyond RUDE
(b) You used coy language to answer / deflect an inappropriate Question
She was flat out RUDE when she made the inquiry…
You were smart because she didn’t ask “Is it a Diamond ?”…
She asked “Is it Real ?”
You answered that Question…
“Of course it’s real”… Lol, the part you left out is that it is a REAL CZ
She got the answer she deserved… and if it ever comes back on you, you can point out very clearly that…
(a) She was beyond RUDE to ask such a Question and that in truth NO ONE OWES her an answer, and
(b) You did nothing wrong… you answered the Question posed.
Thanks for giving me the best laugh of my week here on WBee !!
Post # 15
@Peaceoutboyscout: Sounds fine to me. I mean, what’s the alternative, a hologram or something?
I’m happy to talk about my moissanite with people, but if anyone asked if my ring was “real,” (versus “is that a diamond”?), I would say “yes” without hesitation.
Post # 16
@Peaceoutboyscout: Yep! It’s a real CZ! You just forgot that part. 🙂 You’re human.
EFF her. Maybe she had too many glasses of wine. Either way…it was rude. Who cares what a ring is…it only needs to matter to you!
And PS – people pass off crap all the time. Purses, watches, wallets, being happy,…haha. I’m not saying that you are or did that but people just need to chill and stop being so judgemental. Or just keep it to themselves. Geeze.