- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Long story ahead! You’ve been warned!
My last post here on the bee was about that ugly ugly 70s coin ring that my FMIL gave to the boyfran to use as he wanted towards my engagement ring. After talking it over and reading the advice here on the bee, we decided to have the diamonds pulled and set into an e-ring.
Yesterday we got up bright and early to go e-ring shopping, and I was SO excited! We went to this place called Americus diamond, which has TONS of rings, just so I could figure out what the heck I actually liked. After looking at tons of rings, (and even trying on a 40K ring which just about made me pass out), I decided I liked an oval diamond with a thin halo and thin ring with diamonds down the side.
Well, this place won’t take diamonds out of another ring and use them in any custom work they do, so I had prepared and looked up some jewelry stores here in town with good reviews. There was one in particular I really wanted to go to, so off we went.
Oh. My. Goodness. This man, who owns the store, was AWFUL to me! He basically made me feel like I was trash for not wanting to throw down $7000+ on a ring. He told me that I can’t have white gold, because that’s a 20 year ring at most, and he refuses to use white gold. Plus, with the size of my fingers, and the fact that I wear my class ring on the opposite hand ring finger, that I can’t have a thin band, I need a thicker one.
When I asked him if he would set the stones from this ring into a setting, he looked at them, told me they were single cut, and wouldn’t be as sparkly/pretty as HIS diamonds, but he learned a long time ago not to argue with a woman, and if that’s what I wanted he would do it, even though he didn’t recommend it.
Oh, it get’s better! I asked him if he would set a center stone we bring into him, and he just said “Oh, you mean one you find somewhere cheaper? No! I know all about Blue Nile and all those other discount sites, and my diamonds are far superior quality.”
I asked if he did other clear gemstones, and mentioned that I liked Moissanite (I have a pair of Moissanite earrings that the boyfriend got me for Christmas and I LOVE!), and he went on for like five minutes straight about how Moissanite is nothing but really good PR, and no better than a cubic zirconia, and if I wanted that he’d give it to me because he has hundreds laying around. When I told him my earrings were moissanite he just said “Well, if you like that sort of thing…”
Needless to say, after about half an hour of being brow beaten and SHOCKED that this guy would treat a potential CUSTOMER this way, I left, and ended up crying. I think BF was pretty close to shooting this guy’s tires in the parking lot.
After that my engagement ring shopping experience was pretty much ruined. We went to like six other places and I just wasn’t feeling it. Everything looked the same, and I just felt so guilty at having him put down a few thousand dollars on a ring. One, I don’t wear a lot of jewelry. Two, I work in a research lab where I’m liable to either get something on it, or misplace it. Three, I really didn’t want diamonds anyway! I can’t imagine paying that much for a rock that is pretty common and someone could have potentially died for. I’m a science nerd, lab created is fine with me!
So yesterday ended in severe disappointment and stress for me. I called my best friend and she had a store recommendation, so we went and looked this morning. This lady was WONDERFUL, and her store actually sells moissanite! Problem is, the diamonds in the ring I have are a little larger than what normally goes on the side of a diamond or in a halo, so I’d have to have a custom ring, and even using my diamonds and a moissanite center, it’d still be $1800. I just can’t stomach the idea of spending that much on a piece of jewelry, even though my boyfriend was perfectly willing to.
After that I called my mom and told her what was going on, and she suggested to just go look in a few pawn shops. My bestfriend and I went and ate lunch with her mom, and she suggested the same thing.
I wasn’t really feeling the pawn shop idea, I was ready to start antique store hunting because I’ve been stalking antique e-rings on etsy for forever now, but wasn’t willing to buy one site unseen. On a whim, the bestfriend and I stopped at a pawn shop on my way to drop her back off at a friend’s. And there it was. I was trying on a few they had displayed as e-rings on the top shelf, thinking they were all ugly and this was hopeless and I didn’t even need a damn ring, when I looked on the second shelf. I knew immediately that was it.
If you’ve made it through all that, congratulations! It was probably just as tedious and stressful as my last two days were lol!
Your prize? Some ring porn! Well, just one pic, but I am in LOVE!
It’s just so ME! I’m a little old lady at heart; I collect tea cups and like to cross stitch haha.
Best part? The whole set was only $250!! I don’t have to feel guilty about spending thousands on a ring, I don’t have to feel guilty about buying a new rock that someone may have died for, and I didn’t have to worry about getting a band on top of the e-ring.
It’s on hold, and now all the bf has to do is go pick it up. (He was thoroughly useless yesterday ring shopping, just telling me to get whatever I wanted lol, so I went with the best friend today so I could get a female opinion. She loves it too!).
Again, sorry that was SO long. I think I’m just teetering towards derlirium after the emotional roller coaster of the past two days.
What do y’all think?
Oh and if anyone is in the San Antonio area and wants to know who the jewelers are that I went to, let me know!
Now I’m just waiting on the “official” proposal! Wooo!