Post # 1
I cried. I feel so terrible about it. I had always planned to change my maiden to my middle then add my hubs’ last name. That’s what I did. But when I saw it in print and official, I had an emotional reaction I didn’t really expect. I guess I felt like I lost a bit of myself.
I had never been excited about changing my name but I do like the idea of one name for the family. Still, I didn’t think I would cry at the sight of it.
Anyone else experience this feeling? Please say yes.
Post # 3
I haven’t married yet, but when I THINK about changing my last name I get really upset about it. I LOVE my last name and its a huge part of my life! I think its weird that in this day and age women still change their names, actually….. like when we were more like property then people. I am all for changing your name if it makes you happy and if its something you want, but I know for me I can’t do it. I am meeting my FI half way and hyphenating, but even then I am going to wait for a while to do it.
You are not alone. One of my good friends waited a good 5 years to change her name and she was very emotional about it!
Post # 4
Oh honey, I am so sorry. Your reaction is very natural and common for many people. It’s a process.
Post # 5
Yes, changing it now was a compromise. I had originally planned to do it if we have kids so it would be a family name. I just did now to get it over with. I knew it wouldn’t get any easier with time.
Post # 6
I felt the same way about changing my name so I opted for a hyphen instead. I just didn’t like the idea of giving up my old self completely. Thankfully my DH was okay with the hyphen idea and our children will have his last name.
I just got my new SSC on Friday and seeing the hyphen felt strangely nice. I liked seeing the joining of the names, made it feel more real.
Post # 7
I haven’t officially changed my name yet, but I could see myself doing this! On a side note, if you watch the Real Housewives of Orange County they just showed one of the woman finally changed her name after years of marriage, and her husband was so happy he cried. So even though you presumably made the decision for yourself, and not to make your husband happy, just try to think about the positive sides. Totally allowed to have that moment though!
Post # 8
@Natalieh86: It was really important to him. One of the reasons I feel terrible is that he can tell that I am less than enthused.
Post # 9
@NJmeetsBX: Don’t feel terrible! If anything that should just make him appreciate what you did even more.
Post # 10
@Treejewel19: I set out to hyphenate but am waiting to do it as I’m not 100% sure I want to. I like what you said about it feeling nice that the two names are now joined. I can appreciate and relate to that. Did your husband hyphenate as well? if not, how do you feel about you joining your names together but he didn’t….kind of what I’m struggling with.
Post # 11
I still haven’t decided what I’m going to do yet about changing names… I think of my husband’s mother when I say I’m Mrs…… you know?