Post # 1
Okay, so I got married Saturday and I went to my mom’s house yesterday and asked…. “yippee where are my gifts” and she handed me two envelopes. One was from an uncle who gave the card to my mom the night before and one was from a girl who at the very very end of the night, asked me what to do with her card and I showed her the card box. Now the few weeks before the wedding maybe 12ish gifts came in but a few were from people who were invited but could not attend.
The more time that passes the wierder it seems to me. The only bridal party who gave me a gift was my bestie who gave it to me the night before. Great Aunts and Uncles gave me nadda. And even a close friend not in the bridal party, who was recently married and SUPER into etiquette didn’t give me anything. Now I know that a lot of people are sending things now a days but does anyone think this is weird????????? Are people getting ruder or do you think someone stole cards or gifts. Would it be normal for one in 65 people to bring a gift to a wedding.
I talked to the venue coordinator and she said she didn’t see people with gifts and that some people take a year to send things but I feel like she thought I was accusing her staff…. which I wasn’t.
I cant really ask people…. did you give me a gift? And what about if something did happen and people think I am rude because they didn’t get a thank you card?
Post # 3
Well yes , ettiquette shows that one year is the limit for gift giving but for that many people I would guess you should have some more. Did you have a registry? Can you see if people bought from it?
Post # 4
That seems very strange… very, very strange. You need to look into this further. Do you have a registry that you can check what has been purchased? That might give you a better idea. So sorry this happened to you!
Post # 5
These post are starting to make me nervouse. That is so crazy someone else posted a similar situation recently. Are you sure noone stole your cards? Is there someone you feel comfortable asking becasue you are POSITIVE they would have left a gift?
Post # 6
That does sound strange. I hope you are able to get to the bottom of this, because it doesn’t seem likely that nobody got you a gift.
Post # 7
That’s crazy. I can’t believe that!
Post # 8
Good suggestion about the registries….. off to check!
Post # 9
Definitely look into it. There have been cases where wedding crashers will steal gifts. It’s recommended to have your gift table across the room, and not close to the door. It would be especially easy to grab cards and be unnoticed. Good luck 🙁
Post # 10
weird.. yeah definetely look at the registry. & I have heard of putting the gift table where everyone can see it and not in the lobby or by doors.. sometimes people’s dates who you don’t know very well or the staff might take something.. sad because it’s your wedding day but it happens
but I don’t think 60 or so presents would get stolen …
Post # 11
Oh my goodness….I hope you get to the bottom of this. Could you maybe get a friend or Bridesmaid or Best Man to ask another close friend, so it’s not totally awkward if you ask someone and they really didn’t get you anything? :S
Post # 12
Is there someone that you could ask. I know that it might be awkward if they didn’t give you anything, but it might be worth it to figure it out.
Post # 13
OP I am so sorry :/ I’d be going nuts; thats just my temper though lol.
These posts are becoming too common 🙁
I prepared myself not to expect much at my shower, and was pleasantly surprised. My expectations are going to remain low for the wedding; I hate sounding so materialistic because really we already live together and such we dont expect or “NEED” anything. Its just wanting to share this night with the ones we love, but I personally think its kind of weird to NOT bring a gift to a wedding or send something later?!
Post # 14
So….. a few gifts were at my grandma’s house but one envelope is def missing….. so how do I find out how many envelopes are gone? Or do I just let this all go. what about thank yous?
Post # 15
Guests have up to a year to send a gift and they are not required to bring it to the wedding, though most will. In fact, a gift is not required in the first place. Times are tough and some people can’t afford expensive gifts so they may have to wait to send one. It’s ok to be hurt but they don’t love you any less. The value of their friendship should not be compared to whether or not they brought a gift as it only makes you look greedy, even if that is not your intention.
Post # 16
@nonapkns: this is really odd – can you ask some certain family members to ask around – like your mom, Mother-In-Law, grandmas, aunts – just inquire if they brought somthing or where they left it? Have them say they are worried that some have gone missing and they are trying to track them down. That would probably be much less awkward then you calling up and being all ‘hey! did you get me a gift?’
Edit: probably not something you want to think about, but is it possible someone attending the wedding had sticky fingers? Anyone going through tough times or have issues with the law that you know of?