Post # 1
My fiance and I relocated about 3 months ago for a very awesome job opportunity for him. During this time I have been looking for jobs but haven’t recieved an offer until now. I am very excited for the company I will be working for as it will teach me a lot and everyone in the office is very enthusiastic for their work.
During interviewing I did not mention the fact that I am engaged or planning a wedding. Now that I have been given an offer and have accepted it, I was wondering when I should bring it up? I will not be through my introduction period by the time the wedding rolls around and I am not expecting having vacation time to take off. We are not going on a honeymoon or anything so really I will only need 3 days off (rehersal, day of, the following monday to take FI’s parents to the airport). I don’t want to come across as demanding or needy on my first day, but I also feel that it would be rude not to give them as much advance notice as I can. Should I mention this to HR first? or my manager? or was I totally wrong in not saying anything from the begining????
Post # 3
You’ll be fine. Get in and get your feet wet and mention it in a few weeks. If you only need three days off it shouldn’t be a problem at all. It would be fine to mention it to HR when you fill out your paperwork, but I honestly don’t see how it would be a problem. You’re not required in advance to tell a potential employer all your future plans. Now, if you were taking an entire month off, it would be a different story, but in light of the fact it’s just a few unpaid days, it should be ok.
Congratulations on the new job, btw, that’s great!! 🙂
Post # 4
You’ll be well past 90 days when you need the time off. Just be up front with them — it will not be a problem at all I am sure!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Typically you would have been expected to reveal this information upon acceptance of the offer. I usually throw in a vacation 3-6 months into the job (whether it’s planned or not) and let them know I need the time off and that I understand it may be unpaid if I have not accummulated vacation time. Most offices are fine with it and since it’s for your wedding and you’re only requesting 3 days it really shouldn’t be a huge issue.
I would however let them know ASAP since you’re getting married in mid-December when a lot of people may take time off to stay home with their kids if they are out of school and/or to go Christmas shopping or just spend down vacation hours before the end of the year.
Post # 6
Thank you everyone! This is my first time working for a big office where I will have an HR department, and I’m sure there is a policy for getting days off etc, so I think I will mention something to HR on Thursday, my first day, and see what they say. I didn’t realize I wassupposed to mention something upon acceptance of the offer hope since I’m not asking for a lot of time off hopefully they won’t mind and get too upset. 🙂
Post # 7
I work in HR, and I agree that you should’ve mentioned it during the hiring process, especially if the topic of vacation time came up. However, since it is only three days it may not be a problem. But definitely bring it up sooner rather than later, and apologize for not letting them know in advance. It is frustrating when I offer someone a job and they come in on their first day already asking for time off. If it was something they had mentioned prior to the job offer, I would have still hired them, but after the fact makes it appear that they may be trying to hide something. That is just my experience on the subject!
Post # 8
@OnceInLove: Hopefully I won’t step on anyones toes. Thank you for giving me your perspective. I did go through a recruiting agency as well so I wasn’t really sure when or who I should let know of my situation…
From the one time I have talked with the company (during my interview) there was no talk of bennefits or any vacation time and I figured it would not be appropriate to bring up. I am honestly not trying to hide anything from them. I regret not coming on the bee sooner now and asking for advice while I was job hunting so I wouldn’t be in this position…. I’ll just have to be sure to mention something to HR for sure on Thursday.
Post # 9
I hope I didn’t stress you out more. I’m sure it won’t be a problem, especially since you never discussed vacation time or anything. You will be fine. I’ve just had that happen with a few new employees recently, and it’s been a struggle because we are already shortstaffed. It’s difficult trying to accommodate all of the current employees’ vacations and the new requests for time off. But every office is different. Just be up front about it and you will be fine!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t have mentioned it before getting hired, and I probably wouldn’t make a big deal about it yet. I’m going to have a new job about 4 months before my wedding and I’ll be taking off at least a week but I’m probably not going to formally say anything until a month or two before my wedding. Maybe it’s rude of me, but I don’t want to risk getting judged for bringing up my wedding at a job interview…
Post # 11
I was in this exact situation! I started a new job less than a month before my wedding. Once I had the offer (which was about 2 months before the wedding), I called my new boss and let her know about my wedding and honeymoon plans, and she OK’ed everything (including the transfer of my vacation time, as I went from one state agency to another). I would agree that you should be upfront about this right when you start your new job, especially as December is a big month for people taking time off. But since you’re only asking for 3 days and it is your wedding, I’m sure it’ll be fine!!