(Closed) I got the Job! Now when do I tell them about my wedding???

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You’ll be fine.  Get in and get your feet wet and mention it in a few weeks.  If you only need three days off it shouldn’t be a problem at all.  It would be fine to mention it to HR when you fill out your paperwork, but I honestly don’t see how it would be a problem.  You’re not required in advance to tell a potential employer all your future plans.  Now, if you were taking an entire month off, it would be a different story, but in light of the fact it’s just a few unpaid days, it should be ok.

Congratulations on the new job, btw, that’s great!!  🙂

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’ll be well past 90 days when you need the time off.  Just be up front with them — it will not be a problem at all I am sure!

Congrats!

Post # 5
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9143 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Typically you would have been expected to reveal this information upon acceptance of the offer.  I usually throw in a vacation 3-6 months into the job (whether it’s planned or not) and let them know I need the time off and that I understand it may be unpaid if I have not accummulated vacation time.  Most offices are fine with it and since it’s for your wedding and you’re only requesting 3 days it really shouldn’t be a huge issue.

I would however let them know ASAP since you’re getting married in mid-December when a lot of people may take time off to stay home with their kids if they are out of school and/or to go Christmas shopping or just spend down vacation hours before the end of the year.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I work in HR, and I agree that you should’ve mentioned it during the hiring process, especially if the topic of vacation time came up. However, since it is only three days it may not be a problem. But definitely bring it up sooner rather than later, and apologize for not letting them know in advance. It is frustrating when I offer someone a job and they come in on their first day already asking for time off. If it was something they had mentioned prior to the job offer, I would have still hired them, but after the fact makes it appear that they may be trying to hide something. That is just my experience on the subject!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hope I didn’t stress you out more. I’m sure it won’t be a problem, especially since you never discussed vacation time or anything. You will be fine. I’ve just had that happen with a few new employees recently, and it’s been a struggle because we are already shortstaffed. It’s difficult trying to accommodate all of the current employees’ vacations and the new requests for time off. But every office is different. Just be up front about it and you will be fine!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t have mentioned it before getting hired, and I probably wouldn’t make a big deal about it yet. I’m going to have a new job about 4 months before my wedding and I’ll be taking off at least a week but I’m probably not going to formally say anything until a month or two before my wedding. Maybe it’s rude of me, but I don’t want to risk getting judged for bringing up my wedding at a job interview…

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was in this exact situation! I started a new job less than a month before my wedding.  Once I had the offer (which was about 2 months before the wedding), I called my new boss and let her know about my wedding and honeymoon plans, and she OK’ed everything (including the transfer of my vacation time, as I went from one state agency to another).  I would agree that you should be upfront about this right when you start your new job, especially as December is a big month for people taking time off.  But since you’re only asking for 3 days and it is your wedding, I’m sure it’ll be fine!!

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