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So an old friend of mine from highschool sent FI and I an invitation to her wedding in July. Now I have learned alot of etiquette from you wonderful ladies on the bee but obviously this lady needs a lesson in it. On the bottom on her invitation, in capitals, she has the following
"WE DO NOT WANT GIFT BOXES. ANY GIFT BOXES GIVEN WILL BE THROWN AWAY OR DONATED TO GOODWILL. CASH GIFTS ONLY. PLEASE BE GENEROUS"
I am all for receiving cash as a wedding gift but I would never outright ASK for it (unless it was a family member or someone asked us what we preferred). I just think the way this was done is so tacky. It seriously makes me not even want to go. So rude. As soon as I opened this invite I told FI, "I have to go tell the Bees!!!!" LOL.
OMG that's so tacky. "Come to our party, give us money, be generous"? Wow.
I absolutely wouldn't go! The nerve of some people. You should totally mail the invite back to her with a big empty box!
@Tswife4ever: If your friend is for real...OMG. I don't understand why she would ever think that is okay to put on an invitation. I wouldn't be surprised if they end up with zero gifts of any kind!
This has to be a joke...no one ACTUALLY says stuff like this right?! Oh wow...she must be a real peach haha
@Tswife4ever: The mean girl in me would want to write a check and put it in the card.
Make a big to-do about how generous your gift is to them and how hard it was to give them so much (but they mean that much to you) and then when they unfold the check it is for $0.02
and in the memo put: just my 2 cents, but demanding cash is rude.
Wow. It's one thing to ask for money, but to say "please be generous"? Unbelievable. I wouldn't want to go to this wedding either.
I would either go to the wedding and get her nothing, or not go at all. That is INSANE!!!!
@KatNYC2011 You just became my favorite person for the day!
Holy crap, I can't believe people actually do that sort of thing! I'd totally skip the wedding... but maybe send her an Emily Post book or something. ;)
I take back what I said and second @Bostonsmom: Go for the food, drinks, and entertainment, but come empty handed.
Sometimes I think some bees can be a little uptight about registry info or cash gifts, but this is awesomely bad. I can't imagine any culture anywhere that this is totally OK.
Oh WOW! I can't think of anything to say but holy crap & WOW!
Wow... I would give her a normal check... but wrapped up in a gift box. If the throws it away then, well, she doesn't get to cash the check! lol
The *only* thing I could think of is if maybe it was a destination wedding & they had no way of getting the items home? Plus, looked up the rudest way to word something like that. Lol @ the "be generous".
I want to see this invite. I have a hard time believing someone can be that ridiculous. What a jerk!!!
Honestly, if I got an invitation like that, I'd circle that part in red, write something along the lines of "being greedy and unappreciative gets you NOTHING!", and put that in an envelope and drop it in the card-box at the wedding.
That's too funny! I'd recommend getting her an etiquette book, but that's too much money to send.
Instead, write back in all caps: YOU'RE SO RUDE TO ASK PEOPLE TO GIVE CASH. I BOUGHT YOU A NICE GIFT BUT IT CAME IN A BOX SO I THREW IT AWAY.
@OneLove04210: I feel all warm and fuzzy!! 
OMFG!!!!!!! You have to post a picture of it!!! (With names, etc. blacked out, of course)
LOL - omg - please post a picture of that invite! Would love to see it!
Wow....
That is just so wrong on so many levels.
Personally, I would not go to the wedding and I would not send her anything either. I really don't think I would be friends with her after this either.
Who does that?
@deetroitwhat: I don't see the difference. To be earth conscious I could see asking for no wrapping paper or something, but this is definitely just about getting cash instead of presents.
But then, I think that some people like to feel better about being materialistic but hiding it behind altruism. I am not saying this is true of all moissy brides, but there are definitely some posts I see on the subject about how it's "better for the environment and more ethical" when they really haven't done any research and it seems very obvious they just want the big rock but can't afford a diamond. The attitude is tacky, not the moissy or the desire for cash.
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