I guess I didn't get a christmas gift this year…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2082 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sherryberry:  Aww honey you are not in the wrong. Thats just awful and selfish and insensitive. I would probably hold an inner grudge against my man for a long time if he did me this way.

Post # 5
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

@sherryberry:  I think you should gently tell hubby how you are feeling. It sounds like he tried to get you what you wanted, so I’d give him credit for that. Maybe he’s backed into a corner cause of finances? Could he be waiting until Valentine’s day to give you the ring in the right size?

Post # 7
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

@sherryberry:  I think you should tell hubby you want to make an effort to make Valentine’s day special. No better time to turn up the romance 😉

Post # 8
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would be bummed too. Hopefully he makes it up to you.

i was bummed this Xmas as it was our first Christmas together since we got married and he didn’t get me a card. I love cards as I have kept every single one since we started dating. I even said in his card how much easier it was to find him an xmad card as he is now my husband, not my boyfriend or FI. He felt bad when i gave him a card with his present I guess it just slipped his mind? Oh well. Hopefully v-day makes up for it for you and me!

Post # 9
6958 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sherryberry:  Awww. that does suck. I know we’ve had those periods of just being broke and not being able to do much to celebrate something. Last year I was flat broke but I called in a huge favor with a friend who is a personal chef. He came over the weekend before Valentine’s and cooked us an amazing three course dinner complete with wine pairings (yeah… I had a BIG favor to cash in!). The agreement was SO was in charge of our plans for actual Valentine’s Day. Well… the day before Valentine’s he handed me a basket full of cute but super cheap stuff from Walgreens… some cheapy chocolates, a foam stamp set, some “love dice”, an Angry Birds pencile topper… he said he handed it to me then because I had mentioned Angry Birds. So…. actual Valentine’s was nothing. I think we ate leftovers and watched Scandal. Woomp Woomp.

Now, I think I didn’t get a Christmas gift for our family gift exchange! My cousin pulled my name and on Christmas she gave me this DIY card with all this info about how FedEx or something had a crazy shipping mixup that delayed lots of packages. Fine, my crockpot is coming in the mail! Yay! Only…. it’s mid-January and no crockpot. She IM’d me yesterday asking if I got it and saying Amazon says it was “delivered to front door”. When I said I hadn’t gotten it she immediately said “Damn your ghetto neighbors”. Only we don’t have ghetto neighbors and we get Amazon shipments that are left at our door at least weekly. I seriously think maybe there was a mix up at first so she canceled the shipment (which is what her card said) but then she used the money or was short and never reordered it and is using this whole charade as a stalling tactic or maybe plans to not buy us one at all. She did say something about it possibly being too late because tomorrow will be 2 weeks since it said it was delivered. Really? Then why the hell didn’t you ask 2 weeks ago? I think she’s full of it and I’m not getting a present. 

Post # 10
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@sherryberry: aww that is crumby 🙁 I’m sorry this has happened. I agree, it sounds like he tried to do something nice, butbut like you say, now you have nothing at all. TheThe way you feel isn’t silly. Have you tried talking to him?

Post # 11
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’d be disappointed too. Even if money were really tight, I’d make FI his favorite cookies and write out a sweet message in a card. Gifts don’t have to be huge, and sometimes it really is the thought that counts.

Post # 12
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t care about presents but I do like cards/letters. My husband writes them almost daily. I’d be sad if he didn’t on a special occasion (but he knows better). 

Post # 13
5787 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you need to let this go. Your husband DID get you a gift and it’s just bad luck that it didn’t fit and had to be returned at the exact same time that you two needed money.  It wouldn’t be any different than if you’d gotten him an x-box, it didn’t work when you plugged it in, and instead of replacing it, he took it back for a refund and used the money for bills.  I know it sucks, but you have to focus on what he tried to do for you, and not how it ended up working out.

Post # 14
957 posts
Busy bee

You say money is tight, but can’t he use the money he spent on the ring originally? Had the ring fit, you would have been out of that money anyway. 

I would be hurt as well. Me being who I am, I probably wouldn’t say anything and just sulk inside about it. But if you’re brave enough, I would tell him how you feel.

Post # 15
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MexiPino:  Dang, that is cold. Forget your neighbors, damn your “ghetto” cousin.


@sherryberry:  I think you should tell the hubs that your feelings are hurt. He may feel a little lost and embarrassed about the whole thing..gotta give him a chance to make it right, though.

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