I guess I don't have a theme? Confused bride

posted 2 years ago in Themes
Post # 2
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

You don’t need a theme. 

Also, I have no idea why people feel the need to bash a particular style of wedding. Don’t read that thread. Plan the wedding you want and screw the people who don’t like it.

Post # 3
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

my wedding, was classic and elegant, but i wouldn’t say i had a theme. 

butterflies, peacocks, hearts, that’s a theme.

you don’t need a theme, as PP mentioned.  plan the wedding you want.  if it has rustic details, so be it.


Post # 4
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Don’t feel bad. I’m having the wedding I want and it has no theme aside from “wedding.” In speaking with my girlfriends, I am not alone. Not everyone has a theme they wish to carry through and that is ok!

Post # 5
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

MuseForever:  Pull what you like from all different sources and your wedding “theme” will be the love between you and the Mr…. you don’t need one!

Dont conform to anything that says if you have this your weding is _____….

Post # 6
1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

To me, a theme was almost primarily around decor and perhaps your venue, not about things like photography, DJS and lighting. All that extra stuff just seems like general wedding stuff.

And as others have stated, you don’t need a theme at all to have a beautiful wedding. We’re choosing a theme because it makes us both very happy, it suits us, and I personally like having a central idea to work around. So it works for us very well. For some people a theme is unnecessary and that’s perfectly fine too. Just do you and don’t worry about it!


Post # 7
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Just because you like aspects of a certain aesthetic doesn’t mean you must conform to it entirely! We will incorporate beach, Lego, TV, books, the color blue, good food from all over the world, etc. in our wedding. It’s cohesive to us because it *is* us. I hope my comments on that thread did not offend. I don’t feel that rustic and elegant are mutually exclusive, or rustic and modern. Besides, if every wedding were planned according to my tastes, then my wedding wouldn’t be a special expression of us but just another party.

Post # 8
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

MuseForever:  Haha your wedding sounds very much like mine.  Tuxes (brown). formal wear, full gown and sparkle…but the reception is in a barn!!  I think the contrast is what makes is to interesting.  And as far as that discouraging thread, to each his own!  The “thing” where I’m from is marble floors, pink uplighting, excessive cocktail hours, oppulence, and we HATE IT.  Ever see Teresa’s home in Housewives of NJ?  That.

Now I’m trying to incorporate some Irish/Celtic things in my very rustic/glam/autumn wedding and it clashes but I’ve reached the point of “who gives a f……..!!!!”  Though cohesive-ness and themes are nice, life (and this process) is too short to drive yourself crazy with the details.  

Post # 9
262 posts
Helper bee

themes are for prom.  wedding themes should be “love”


the end. 

Post # 10
3331 posts
Sugar bee

The concept of wedding themes is kind of weird. Some people use a theme very literally- like if they have a butterfly theme, there are butterflies incorporated into every aspect of the wedding: invites, decorations, cake, bouquet, etc. Other people just use their colours as a theme.

Every wedding has some sort of theme that brings together all the elements, but its up to each couple how detailed/overt you want to get. For my wedding, I wouldn’t say I have an overt theme, but there are lots of natural elements (trees, flowers, wood), muted colours, lace and floral motifs. Typically when searching for inspiration pictures the stuff I like is described as either rustic, vintage or shabby chic, so when I look for inspiration or want to describe my wedding quickly, I’ll just say those are my themes, but I didn’t neccesarily set out to plan a rustic wedding, if you get what I’m saying.

So if those are the details you’re drawn to, go for it! Use them as search terms when looking for inspiration, but you don’t have to tell people you’re having a “Rustic Wedding” if you don’t want 🙂 and yeah, I understand when something you love becomes popular and all of a sudden people are like “oh, you’re having a rustic wedding!” as if you just typed that into Pinterest and copied every detail. As long as you have the things you love, and not just the things for the sake of it fitting a particular theme, you’ll be fine 🙂

Post # 11
4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You definitely don’t need to have a “theme.”  It’s not like you write on your invites “This is a _____ themed wedding!” unless you want your guests to dress a certain way.  So no reason have a name for it.

But, if you wanted to call it something, I would definitely say it sounds like an elegent rustic theme!  Mine was a brunch wedding, and I was defintely going for a rustic/elegent vibe and that’s just what I got!

Post # 13
111 posts
Blushing bee

MuseForever:  tell people you are having a wedding-themed wedding.


(I told people my wedding was Costco themed, which confused them long enough for me to escape like a ninja into the night. One of my least favorite wedding questions lol.)

Post # 14
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


glasskey:  Oooh, a NINJA themed wedding! Should’ve done that. Would’ve looked just like a big, empty room.

MuseForever:  Girl, your theme is “shit FI and I like.” If people don’t like that, the heck with ’em.

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