- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I already know that most people will say yes, but hear me out.
My Mom’s family is BIG. I have 21 cousins on that side, and almost every one is married or in a serious LTR. that means almost 40 guests right there, and we were trying to keep our list to 60-75. With our immediate families, wedding party and their partners/dates, and friends this was going to be impossible. So we decided to split the guest list and invite only two of my closest cousins to the entire wedding, and the rest just for the evening, for some drinks and dancing.
I had talked to some of them about this plan, and everyone was totally cool and very understanding. Now however, I’m having second thoughts because my one Aunt, along with my Mom (her sister), is planning my shower and of course, inviting all my female cousins, as well as the girlfriends of two of my male cousins- whom I’ve never even met!
now, it remains to be seen who will come and how it will all turn out, but now I feel a little guilty that they will be at my shower, but only invited for the reception, not the ceremony. Am I having unnecessary bridal guilt here?
inviting all those extra guests would seriously increase our catering budget, and we’re not even doing dinner, just drinks, desserts and appys. Someone said that if they were invited to the whole evening they might be more likely to gift, but that’s not why I want to invite them. it’s so hard to know who will RSVP yes or no too, since it’s on a Weds evening.
Should I stick to the original plan, and just be super gracious and appreciative and hope that everyone understands (since my cousins that I’ve spoken to seem to already)? or bite the bullet and invite the whole fam damily?
really wanted a more intimate ceremony, and was ok with a larger crowd for the dance party…