Post # 1
I know he isn’t ready to be engaged or get married yet and that really is ok with me. We haven’t been dating that long although I think our relationship has been on the fast track from the beginning. I overheard him on the phone with someone he knows that we have had drinks with this morning…she asked him if he was going to put a ring on that finger and he said something about not wanting to rush anything. (BTW he didn’t know I was still home until he came out of the bedroom, oops) I know this is the case but it still kinda stings when he says it. I know he loves me and I’m sure things will progress one of these days but I feel hopeless when he puts it like that. Anyone else ever feel down about him stating something similiar over and over?
Post # 3
My bf says that from time to time.. it does hurt a little but if it is where he’s at, it has to be ok with me 🙂 I dont know if you are in the same situation, but in my case, I know he does want to get married so I just have to be patient. Granted I think he is doing it more for me but he does want to. I’m getting sidetracked here ! Basically, I understand how you feel ! But as long as hearing him say that stings only because you want to be his wife really bad and not because you feel like you are not going anywhere together, youre ok 🙂
Post # 4
It’s only because I love him to death and I want to be able to start a life with him! We have both been engaged before and he broke his off in february (more recently than mine). Both relationships were 6+ years and lasted longer than they should have but I think we learned a lot about ourselves. SO and I have been close friends for a few years….So I think he wants to marry me someday but he is not at the point where he can totally wrap his brain around it again. I guess I just need to remember that 🙂
Post # 5
@HopefulInLove: Absolutely 🙂 Especially with the previous engagements ! Hang in there sweety and never loose sight of your love for each other! Thats what really matters 🙂
Post # 6
You sound like me about a year ago. I think after about six months of dating I was ready to marry him, although I didn’t tell HIM that…
Like your b/f he was also a “not rush into things” kind of guy. After a year of dating he started dropping marriage hints but nothing specific. It was always “let’s be together for many years to come,” nothing specific.
So after about 15 months of dating I was about to go crazy. I asked him what his plans were for us, what his intentions were basically — it was a very scary subject for me to bring up because I knew there was a possibility he might not want marriage for us. And if that was the case I was prepared to walk. Fortunately it didn’t turn out that way, he was very definite that he wanted us to move in together and get married.
You said he broke off his engagment in February — it sounds like you’ve been dating less than a year? Try to be patient. I know it’s hard. Once a certain amount of time has passed, say a year or so? — if he hasn’t brought it up, then start asking him some questions about your future together. You will probably get the answer you want.
Hang in there!
Post # 7
I think we all say things to friends but don’t actually mean it.
I don’t always realise it, but when a friends asks me if me and SO are getting engaged soon I always brush it off casually and say “nahh” to kind of move on from that topic.
SO knows I don’t mean it when I say that, but I say it to others because I don’t really like talking about weddings in front of my SO as it sounds like I am obsessed and may freak him our or something!
My guy friend also does this, he always blows the marriage talk off when his friends asks. I know for a fact he was still planning a proposal behind the scenes as he told me, but he didn’t want the others to be let in on it too.
So maybe it’s one of those old he does want to marry you and get engaged, but won’t tell it to his friends when directly asked, situations?