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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    My job is going insane.  My cell phone went wacko last night and I missed an emergency call from the hospital (cell phone malfunction) and got chewed out..for a phone malfunction.  So I'm freakin' on that.  Literally cried for 2 hours last night and T came over (he never spends the night but did last night and just held me when I was crying as I'm under alot of stress there right now).

    I found out today that mom, who is a nonsmoker and always has been, has two lung nodules and is having a second CAT scan in 2 weeks, five days after her birthday and two after mine.

    Just really like this>I guess I too need a hive hug.. :  wedding Icon Sad

     
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    avdillard0110    May 17, 2009   Savannah, GA

    Big cyber hug!!! We are all rooting for your situation to get better! I say that crying is a great way to let all the tension out of your body, so go ahead and let it out! We <3 you!

     
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    ms tofu    September 7, 2009   LA/OC

    ::HUG::

    Sounds like a lot at once! I hope your mom will be alright, and just take a minute to breath.. you'll be fine! 

     
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    bluegreenjean    June 2009  

    Hugs not drugs!

    Hang in there.

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    @avDillard:  Thanks so much...I needed that hug.  Been doing plenty of crying btw.

    @Ms.Tofu:  Thanks so much also..needed your hug also.  Please just send prayers/positive karma/thoughts our way. 

    My job is so stressful that one of the few of us (there are only 6 between 3 facilities) had an emotional issue last week and I had one last night complete with full blown anxiety!  It was horrible.  Just horrible.  And my mom is 3 states away and somehow can't seem to immediately get me the result of her cat scan (the first one) faxed to me so I can read it or see a copy of it.

    :( 

     
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    hanmay    30 April 2009   Warwick, England

    Big hug all the way from England!!!

     

     
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    happilywaiting       Massachusetts

    Sending big hugs & lots of prayers to you Bellenga!

     
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    driftslikesmoke    January 2, 2010   Atlanta, GA

    Oh, hon, big hugs for you. PM me if you ever need to vent or talk.

     
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    Sezzy    7/3/2010   Philadelphia

    Huge hug!

    I'm so sorry to hear about all of your stress, especially since you've been looking forward to a much happier time.  People at work can be so difficult sometimes, not realizing that you have other parts of your life and that you too can make a mistake.

    All love and positive energy to you! Breathe, take comfort in T, and know that a bunch of bee girls are praying for your mom!

     
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    So Sorry. Hang in there.  I know it will get better.  I'll say a prayer for your mom.

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    charmedbride    august 2009   ca/wedding in mi

    hugs and positive vibes from SD! take a little time out for yourself if you can...i know it's hard with so much stress at work and your mom's health problems but making sure you're taking care of yourself will help!

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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    Ugh rotten week!!!  Hugs!

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    ErinMarguerite    July 2009   DC Area

    Good luck!  I'm so sorry about all the bad news coming your way this week.  It will get better, and at least you'll have results from your mom's test in not TOO long.  Even bad news is good when you can start working on fixing what's wrong!  Take a deep breath and get all the hugs you can.  I'll be thinking about you.

     
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    BeachyBride2010    Jan, 2010   Jamaica

    BIG Hugs sent South to you... chin up, and hang in, you're a strong woman and will get through this as with prior trials. 

     
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    bruschetta    August 29, 2009   Philadelphia

    Awwww  ((((((((Brotherly Love from a Sisterly Bee)))))))))  I guess I too need a hive hug.. :  wedding Icon Wink

     
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    professorbee    8/8/09  

    I am so sorry - I hope that you are able to get your mother's scan soon, and that it is clean.  I am sending you good wishes from NYC, and people from all across the world are rooting for you and your family.

     
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    deviledegg    May 24, 2009  

    Hugs to you!  I'm sorry you are going through all this at once.  I hope things work out (and quickly!)

     

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    I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope this weekend gives you a breath of fresh air and some good news :) I'll cross my fingers & toes that your mom will be okay!

     
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    glitter    June 2009   Los Angeles, CA

    So sorry to hear about this, Bellenga. BIG HUGS!! I am thinking positive thoughts for you and your mom. Take care of yourself!!

     
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    Firefighter_Prazs_Girl    02/3/2010 and 05/03/2010   Angleton Texas

    Hang in there.. Deep breaths and lots of choc and feel good movies.. I can only imagin' how bad you feel for not being able to see the xrays! Hang in there. I know all us in the hive are always here for you. And keep us posted!

     
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    go2bee    July 11, 2009   Vancouver, Canada

    Oh I'm SOO SOO sorry to hear that!!  HUGS FROM CANADA!!  Keep us updated with everything!!

     
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    HumarockBride    January 2, 2010   Boston, MA

    thinking of you in this hard time ...

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    Lorienne    January 1, 2016   Los Angeles, CA

    So sorry you're having to go through this.  Am keeping you and your Mom in my thoughts.  Please keep us up to date on the results of her tests, and take good care of yourself right now - a nice soak ni a hot bath might be a great way to unwind after such a tough week.

     {{{hugs}}}

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I cannot begin to thank all of you for the positive thoughts and prayers.  My mom's next CAT scan is 3/31 and work is getting a teeny bit better, but this weekend will drain me...literally.  I am working both tomorrow and sunday and on call too.

    It's just alot having both work and family issues too.  But it's going to be better.  Once I get my hands on her prior CAT scan report, I can glean alot more from it.  I haven't seen anything yet and I am in the medical field so I know enough and my bro in law is a surgeon so we will know what  we're up against.

    It was wierd today b/c one of my patients today had a nodule and another one later on a lung mass.  I suddenly saw a different face on them, my mom's.  We don't know if it's anything yet to worry about, but I'll have a good handle on it if and when I see her CAT scan report and the scan itself on a CD. 

    T and I are hanging tough right now and after the less than perfect trip to Jamaica, it's wonderful to know that you've got somebody there to hold your hand thru it.  I am not going to tell my son anything about grandma because we don't even know if it is something to worry about or not.  Just kinda surreal feeling right now and more tired than you can imagine.  I'll have worked seven days straight by sunday and then working five more days..no rest until next weekend..  

     
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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    Bellenga , I am so sorry to hear about this.  The time waiting to find results is so ....awful.  My mom found a lump in her armpit, they said it was nothing, she finally made them take it out, and yup, it was cancer.  But they had NO IDEA what kind and it took weeks to get the tests and results and those were the most nerve wracking weeks ever.  Your mind races with all the worst case scenarios, and it is just so scary.    I really feel for you and wish you and your family all the best - please do let us know how you are doing.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    Bellenga (((((BIG HUGS))))))

    I really hope your mom is ok, my dad just had a colonoscopy and they found 5 polyps and 2 looked abnormal so we're waiting to hear back from the doctor.  I REALLY hope he doesn't have cancer, I think my mom will lose it.  He had prostate cancer and had it removed a year ago, but luckily they caught it early enough that he didn't have to have chemo or radiation.  He's been eating healthier and exercising more even thoug his work is killing him with extra hours and no overtime (on top of a $10 an hour pay cut!).  And we buried my grandma last July.  How much can one family take at a time????

    Hang in there sweetie, let us know as soon as you know. We're here for you!

     
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    MoSnow    9/6/09   Colorado - Wyoming

    Big Hugs and Good Thoughts from Colorado!

    If there ever were a team to tackle these issues, it seems your family is it! 

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Geez, the universe is sure making itself known to you this week, isn't it?  I'm sorry you're going through all of this right now.  I just went through the lung nodule issue with a friend's mom.  I'm sure you know all of the best and worst possibilities, so I just wanted you to know that I'm hoping for the best.

    I've definitely taken my licks this week too, so I can empathize well, sister!  Computer hugs!

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Thanks so much everybody..I love ya all.

    Hive hugs also to MsSL82be:  Hoping the path reports on your dad's polyps come back negative..the waiting part stinks.

    Crossing my fingers, praying, and hoping for the best until the 31st.  I told my mom good or bad or inconclusive that she is to call me asap with the results and that the doctor request the results phoned to him as soon as the CT is read.

    My mom sent me a card today (to son and I actually) for Easter.  It was very sweet.  I've got a gorgeous one to send for her birthday and will send some tulips to her also.  To make her feel better.

    With her having had pneumonia, I did a bit of probing at work the other day.  One of my coworkers and a doc I work with both said that there could be non cancerous granulomas or questionable areas that look like nodules from pneumonia.  The fact she's not a smoker and that nobody in our family has a hx of cancer are both good signs in our corner.  

     
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    OH I hope things start looking up soon.  Here's a {{{{{{{hug!}}}}}}}}}}}.  Hang in there and this too shall pass. 

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Thanks CW!  I needed that.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    Bellenga, Thank you for that.  I guess I too need a hive hug.. :  wedding Icon Biggrin If it weren't for the Bee I don't know where I would be sometimes.  You know, the granulomas make perfect sense.  Hopefully the 31st will come with good news that it was only the pneumonia wreaking havoc on your mom. 

    Still no word from the doc on my dad, mom wanted him to call for the results. His answer - Why am I going to call him just so he can tell me I have cancer?  Can't disagree with him there, so mom is leaving him alone for now.  And we're hoping no news is good news. I would think if he had cancer they would have definitely called by now to tell him right??  ugh ugh the waiting game...I hate it!

     

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