- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
Sunday, we had a birthday part for my FFIL and it was great. The weather was gorgeous, we had tons of food, everyone was having a good time. I invited my dad to also come over and spend the afternoon with us, which he came. My parents are divorced and my FI’s parents have been married for 37 years.
Then my dad and I started talking about the wedding, which church we were going to get married at and out of the blue he tells me that he wants to bring someone to the wedding that he doesn’t want to be alone. So I said, ok fine, just let me know for sure so that I can sit her at a table with FI’s aunt. He then has the nerve to tell me that he wants her to sit beside him at the parents table, like really?!?! I don’t know this chick and you want me to sit her at the parents table?!
I told him that he will be seating at the parents table with my mom, and FI’s parents. He then says that he does not want to sit beside my mother, that he wants his lady friend to sit there instead… are you for real?! I told him straight up, he did it for my sister’s wedding, they sat side by side the entire time and no fussing was done about, and he can’t even do it for me???? Argg,,, at that point, I didn’t say anything, I got up, went upstairs to my room and broke down!
FI noticed that something was up and he came upstairs, I just broke down even more, telling him I was done planning this freaking wedding, that every time I try to do something with my dad, I get shut down, he’s totally being a prick… bla bla bla… like how dare he tells me that he wants a stranger to sit at the parents table, how dare does he tell me that he doesn’t want to sit beside my mother, it’s my wedding no? I cried, and cried, and cried… poor FI just stayed beside me, telling me that it will be ok, that if my dad is going to be like that, then let him be, we will sit him somewhere else with his lady friend….
I’m just so done with it…. Am I over reacting here? Sorry for this venting, and thanks for listening and giving me feedback…