Post # 1
It was my yearly lets head to the outlet mall and get me some clothes for work. YAY. Well, before that I tried on my pants from last year. Everything was snug 🙁 BOOO!
I tried not to let that get to me and I tried to get in the game. I focused. I was ready. I went to the Loft outlet store as I usually do and went in with a mission.
I had heaping mounds full of clothes.
And when I tried them on NOTHING FIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was so devistated I started to cry in the dressing room. The sad part is I lost weight, cause I can feel it but its still not enough weight that I can wear my pants from last year and none of the tops fit. I know I am bigger up top but NOTHING??!!??? The sweaters were pulling, nothing hung right, OMG it was a disaster.
When I got home I realized I must have gained more weight than I thought! And that I was bigger, and must have been at my largest weight yet! I feel utterly defeated. 🙁
Post # 3
Oh I’ve had that pity party. Sorry sweetie. I know it sucks. But I came to realize that regardless, you have to push through it. Once you get past the hump, IMO new clothes always makes me feel good. As long as they fit properly (even if it’s a bigger size)
Nothing makes you look bigger than squeezing into a size that isn’t a proper fit. I had to go up a size in pants, not thrilled but to be honest I looked like a stuffed sausage. The bigger size gave me a far better silhouette. So back out tomorrow, get some new fabulous clothes, a nice pair of shoes, a new bra, perhaps a new lipstick or perfume and rock it.
Post # 4
I hear you. I worked so hard to lose a measly 15 lbs. I was stable forever than gainestir all back on in a week. I spent more that 1500$ on new clothes last year when it was off. Well they’re all useless now. 🙁
Post # 5
@VictorianChick: I’ve been there. It sucks. The only thing that helps me is to think that I will never be as big as I am right now if I keep working at losing weight. Exercising every day and doing my best to eat clean has to do something eventually. It is such a hard journey and takes a lot of patience. I tend to buy work clothes that are forgiving so I don’t have to replace my work clothes every time I have a fat spree. However, I’m hoping to put an end to that now.
Post # 6
Its ok! I too have had the fat moment, you take it and turn it into motivation.
Its not about being fat or skinny, its about your health and being healthy!
Post # 7
@VictorianChick: Oh gosh I’ve been there. Somehow my summer clothes always fit but my more tailored winter work clothes don’t – I dread trying them on each fall. Funny that you should mention LOFT – I love that store and wanting to shop there is a big motivation for losing weight! I can’t fit into any of their stuff right now 🙁 But I’m 27 pounds down and still going! I know you didn’t ask about weight loss, but I’m doing Weight Watchers and I really like it.
Post # 8
I’m sorry sweetie. I know you can push past this and get motivated to be happier and healthier!
Post # 9
@VictorianChick: I feel ya!
My dad passed a comment saying that my arms are thicker than his and sadly it is true. I have a sister who is 2.5 years older than I am and she lost a ton of weight to participate in a local summer festival (Carnival – they wear almost no clothes). She lost the weight and is constantly telling me that I look like an ogre next to her since I am taller and fatter. She is an idiot like that. When I got to be by myself, I brokedown.
My SO is overweight (his nickname from his longtime friends and family is Biggie plus they can’t pronounce his real name) and he calmed me right down. Everyone here knows that I have 2 little kids. The last one came while I was working on my degree. My weight was bought on from being busy and stressed. A friend I haven’t seen is visiting in December and I am using that as my motivation to lose a lil weight.
Find a motivation and a fitness path!! Cheer up!
Post # 10
@VictorianChick: I have been there. When I realized how unattractive I felt, I was devastated. It took me a year to change my lifestyle completely. Now, in my mid-twenties, I am in the best shape of my life, I am skinnier and healthier when I was at 15. My point is that it is hard, but absolutely doable. Set your goals and priorities and have fun. Yes, the fat won’t go away in month, but as soon as you start making progress it will be worth it. Remember to eat clean and excercise regularly and you will see results!
Post # 11
@VictorianChick: I just want to reach through and give you a hug. I have been there. It is a dark place, and it’s a sad place. But the good news is – you can 100% get out of it, with dedication and hard work.
The best thing to do (IMO) is to face and assess the damage. Get on the scale. Take measurements. And perhaps most importantly – take your ‘before’ photos. These photos are going to help you SO much throughout your journey. Take them, and then use them as the desktop photo on your computer, put them on your fridge, your underwear drawer, your closet – whereever. And in a month or two, when you’ve made some progress – take new pictures. Keep going that, and I promise you – the visible progress you make is going to be SO satisfying, and that awful feeling you have right now is going to turn into PRIDE.
You can do it! You are worth it. And no matter what, you are beautiful.
Post # 12
@VictorianChick: oh honey. Im so sorry!! I have been getting that way too. I will come in with a bunch of clothes and get a couple things or nothing.
Nothing fits like its supposed to. Everything is uncomfortable. We ALL know the feeling. I have recently got really fed up with it and decided to make some changes. Not enough to notice a difference yet, but hopefully soon…maybe not that soon since i just ate a doughnut LOL.
a few of us from the bee just downloaded an app called Lose It! and were “friends” on there so we can support eachother. PM me if you would like to join.
Im really sorry though, that is a really sucky feeling. Hopefully its a feeling you can turn into inspiration. Good luck and hope you feel better. Remember, we all have those days…heck i split my freakin dress i was wearing last week. SO EMBARRASSING. Luckily my co worker had a long sweater to cover it up. Hope that story cheered u up!
Post # 13
@bklynbridetobe: +1! Excellent advice. It doesn’t matter what the tag says, just find clothes that fit you perfectly NOW and don’t give up. 🙂
Post # 14
@tiff-tiff-tiff: OMG that is horrible! Family can be so cruel. I’m sorry you have to go through that.
Thanks for the support everyone! As a woman I know I wouldn’t be alone in this uncomfortable sistuation. Everyone’s advice helps a lot. I have been trying to lift weights and eat better. Things never took this long before, but as I get older, I realize I really need to make some life changes here. No diet.
@leisha606: I will be sending you a pm 🙂
Thanks again everyone. It helps.
Post # 15
@VictorianChick: Aw hon. We’ve all been there! Don’t worry! I agree that the older we get, the more difficult it is to lose weight. It’s a constant struggle and instead of getting easier it gets harder. Idk.
Like @bklynbridetobe: said, the best option is buying clothes that are your size. Because you will look better in them, and it’s always good to have some loose/bigger sizes laying around for when you hit these kinds of moments!
Can I just say though, that I am sitting here nodding to your post while popping M&Ms like it’s my job? I smell my own pity party coming! 😛
Post # 16
@Mimoza: add me to the list of folks snacking while reading about other folks having the same fat breakdown I had last week… oops. 🙂