Post # 1
I totally lost my mind and freaked out, it wasn’t pretty. I am having so much trouble deciding who is on the guest list and who isn’t. We want a no kids wedding. So we aren’t inviting and cousins who are under the age of 10. My aunt, who I am VERY close to, has 3 boys. Ages 9,11,and 13. They are the sweetest most well behaved boys and when they were younger I moved in with my aunty for the summer to help her out, so I am very close to all three. I watched their soccer games, attended birthdays, took them to the amusement park etc. I do not want to split up the family, and only invite the older two boys, so I have decided to invite all three. End of story, thats what I’m doing. However, my FI has two cousins, who I have met 3 times, who are 5 and 7. We aren’t inviting them. I have been stressing non-stop that they will be offended that their kids aren’t invited. My FMIL said straight out that we aren’t obligated to invite them, but she doesn’t know I’m inviting my other 3 cousins. Sigh. My maid of honor is kind of mad that her kids aren’t invited, seeing as I have known them their whole lives. But we are already over our maximum for guests and I just can’t let her bring them, because then everyone will bring their kids, or complain about not bringing their kids. So I went crazy and was crying and just stressed to the max. And now that I have slept on it, I have gained some clarity. It’s our wedding, it’s our day, and if my FI is cool with our guest list we are not changing it. Right now there’s 129 people on the list, our venue fits 120 so I have my fingers crossed that 9 people can’t make it. So if people are offended that their kids can’t come, thats fine with me. I’m not going to worry about other people’s opinions anymore. Come 3:30 on October 9 2011 I will be married to the man I love and thats all that matters!
Post # 3
I hope everything goes as you plan, cause you are right…it is your and your FI day. Best of luck!!
Post # 4
Dont worry, its all going to work out. No matter whhat you do somebody is going to be unhappy, so do whatever works for you and your FH 🙂
Post # 5
I think you have a good attitude about this. Yes some people are going to be upset, and as we are not having kids at all at the wedding, it definitely upset people on our end too.
People will get over it, trust me. They need to realize it’s about the two of you as a couple, not about their kids.
Post # 6
You know what sometimes you just gotta do it. There is always that extenuating circumstance that you just aren’t going to get around. Don’t feel bad about it. You have drawn a line and if their is one exception to that line I think that is ok. There is always going to be someone poo pooing on your parade.
Post # 7
I feel your pain. It is your day, do what you want and invite who you want. I think that the parents are initially upset that their kids aren’t invited, but come your wedding day they will be able to enjoy an adult evening celebrating with you, and take a break form being mommy and daddy. I too have 3 younger cousins that I am very close to that I didn’t even hesitate to invite, even though our wedding was initially no kids (MIL got her way and now there is a whole gaggle of wee ones that are invited, Arg!)
In the end what makes you two happy is the right way! I do love the clarity that can come from a good nights sleep.
Post # 8
I think inviting a well behaved 9 year old is different than a 5 year old. Regardless it’s your wedding, do what makes you and FI happy.
Post # 9
and this is why I love WeddingBee!!! Thank you ladies, I was starting to get sick to my stomach whenever I thought about the guest list and now I’m just done with it!! And all your comments mean so much to me!!