I had to give my FI the sex talk!!

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@jbbs1222:  wait… what?! How old is he? Did he go to a regular school because usually they teach anatomy in health class. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Hmm. Well that’s different. I mean, didn’t he ever get curious and google it?  

Post # 5
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Busy bee

For some reason this makes me uncomfortable. It would remind me of fooling around with a child. I agree with PP, how old is he? He didn’t know there were three holes? Does he know where babies come from?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jbbs1222:  i actually think it’s pretty cool that you are the one to teach him the facts on this topic. cheers to you! so many people grow up exposed to all kinds of weird (and at times, damaging) myths about anatomy and sexuality. keep it up! it might be a good idea to read some science-based books together on the topic like “our bodies, ourselves” or “taking charge of your fertility” to keep the conversation going in a really healthy way!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Aquaria:  Some school districts (mine included) had parents sign a release form to reach this kind of stuff, my parents were super about sex (pretty sure I knew what it was and why women have periods by the time I was 7/8) so they always signed those forms. Considering his parents never bothered to tell him about it  they probably didn’t want him learning about it in school either.

@jbbs1222:  I had to explain to a 25 year old (gay) friend of mine about what happens when women have a period, that it’s not just blood but shedding of the lining, the egg, etc. He SHOULD have learned all of this considering he’s taken health and biology in highschool and college but I’m guessing he just blocked it our or didn’t pay attention. I’m sure he understood how his body worked but still, it’s insane how little people know about the human body, or in your FI’s case, their own bodies!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@winstonchurchill:  I agree, this does make me feel uncomfortable for some reason. 

@jbbs1222:  He really knows NOTHING about any sexual organs? Like, I can understand him not knowing sex since hes never done that before… but he didnt even know about reporductive organs and stuff? Has he ever masturbated/know what that is/know why he does it?

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know some schools are weird about this (grew up in TX, trust me, there were some mixed messages there) but to be 23 and to never have looked this stuff up on the internet…? Weird.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@jbbs1222:  I get what you’re saying. It’s not that he didn’t know about sex. He just didn’t know about the plumbing. I think it’s awesome that you were the one who got to teach him. 🙂 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I would never marry someone who didn’t know what reproductive organs he had. What. The. F.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know this is an old post, but lol, wut?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

jbbs1222:  That is just stupid, I am sorry, but it just is. My parents never gave me the sex talk (as I mentioned in another post and why, as mentioned in the other post, that I made sure my kids had or will have the talk around 10) but I knew the basics. I knew what parts people had, that is basic anatomy and I had learned a few things from sex ed in school, I guess thats what my mom relied on. Anyway, even not being educated at a younger age, how did he not (at some point in 23 years) try to find out? Read a book, use the google? Are you one of those teahers sleeping with her students?

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

MrsUPS:  this thread is almost 10 months old and I don’t think the OP even posts on WB anymore.

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